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Feb 14, 2008
Spankings ARE harmful...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Donna, ANY kind of spanking harms a child in ways that people still refuse to accept. Evidence consistently proves that spanking is no more effective as a disciplinary measure than other non-punitive methods. The problem with spanking is that is carries harmful side effects to the child, just as harmful as what you experienced when being spanked in your home.

I've written extensively on this subject matter. One of my articles appears in my August 2007 issue of my monthly e-zine, Barriere Bits. If you aren't already a subscriber, I strongly urge you to sign up (it's free) so that you can have access to that particular issue. I think you'll find it enlightening.

After reading the article, I hope you'll open your mind to other possibilities. I want to believe that loving parents would never knowingly continue to use a disciplinary method that is so harmful to a child; they just need to understand how damaging it really is.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Feb 15, 2008
Sad for you
by: Linda

I can certainly identify with your story, Donna. I grew up with parents like yours, only mine were alcoholic and drug addicted. We had to work from sunup till sundown, in cottonfields, picking cotton, so they would have drinking and dope money. My mother "spanked" us with Belts, switches, Extention cords or whatever she could get her hands on at the time. You knew when you got up in the morning you would be beat for something. I am sorry you went through that horrible childhood. I made a solemn vow, I would never hit another human being. To this day I haven't. I wish you well, this website will help you feel a little better. It has for me.

Feb 16, 2008
I Feel You
by: Francine

Donna, I understand what you went through. I've been through the same thing as you, Donna, and someone who put me through that same thing that you went through was mostly my parents.

My parents, too, were aggressive and they felt that the only way for me to behave was to constantly spank, ground and criticize me. They were aggressive cuz they hated my clothes, hair, looks, music, friends, and they also hated it when I buy stuff from Hot Topic. They also hated it when I straighten my hair with my flat straightening iron; they also ground me all the time; they hated it when I dress all in black; they hated it when I decided to wear costume (or fashion) jewelry, as they preferred having me wear fine (or designers') jewelry; they wanted me to be a doctor when I get older; they wouldn't let me have a boyfriend, as they insisted on me studying and going to school; they vwouldn't even let me play on the jungle gym after school when I was younger...long story.

Well, I hope you have a better life now, Donna, and I strongly urge you to try counselling cuz you're worth it.

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