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Oct 29, 2013
Denis:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're absolutely right when you say that the abuse had nothing to do with you. Abusers have an innate need to control. And they'll change the rules of the game in order to maintain that control. When people get angry at inconsequential things, like spilled milk, they aren't angry at the spilled milk. It goes much deeper than that. I know that it seems like just another excuse for such an abuser to attack, but it's even deeper than that. Abusers are really just children themselves. Trouble is, they're children in adult bodies that are dangerous to actual children. One can't know for sure what happened to your mother to bring her to such a place of anger. It's a very deep seeded anger. Understand that she lived in that place of anger, not because of you or your brother, but because she was incapable of dealing with her own issues. Control issues stem from not having it when you were most vulnerable. You and your brother paid the price for her inabilities. What's important now is to find a way to bring purpose to what you endured and witnessed. Find a way to help others, and in the process, help your Self. Seek out various healing modalities that will help to bring you to a place that clears your anger in a safe way. You didn't deserve to be mistreated. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. I send you love, light and healing energy, Denis. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
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