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Apr 02, 2011
Dee:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You were very courageous to tell and then to follow through with a court case against your sex offender. The fact that his family is standing behind him, at your expense, is not unusual. But that's THEIR problem, THEIR loss. I wouldn't want anything to do with THEM. As for the judge, he was limited in the number of years he could sentence; a life sentence was likely not available. I agree that most judges don't understand the lifetime effects of sexual abuse. I suspect he was trying to show you he took what happened to you into consideration. But in truth, even a life sentence would not take away what your father did to you. In other words, there is never any real justice, regardless of the outcome of a trial, much as we'd like to believe there is. The good thing about a conviction and time in prison is that he can't offend against another child while he's locked away. As for "chosen" families, we all need people in our lives who support and encourage us through good and bad times. I'm thrilled that you found a family that you can lean on. A family who can help you to see the goodness in yourself. A family where you can all band together for the benefit of each other. But even chosen families can't solve everyting; please consider seeking out some form of counselling in order to deal with the effects of being sexually abused by your father. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 02, 2011
I'm glad you told
by: Anonymous

Dee, I'm glad that you told the cops on your so-called dad. However, shame on your family and even your mom for running away from you instead of protecting you from that beast of a father! They were supposed to protect you and they failed miserably. How dare they! Well, at least your so-called dad won't be able to abuse anymore children due to being locked up in prison because molesters and cowardly abusers don't stop until they're forced to stop. Oh, and I'm glad that your friend and her family are with you now because they are so sweet for doing that, I just hope that you try counselling.

Apr 03, 2011
Be Brave: Be strong. Be persevering in seeking what is the right way forward
by: maurice

Dee: read, read, over Darlene's comment: it will give you inner strength to get on with your life NOW and make a great future for yourself: (I am the most important person young woman) I will love myself because I know now what genuine and true love is after finding a true friend whose family LOVE and Cherish you as equal: Live well: Laugh alot LOVE much: Always beginning and ending with yourself: Dee: begin with your friend (s) Tday having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Dee you won't regret it: It will empower you naturally: you'll make real and natiural friends from among your team mates: you'll have a loving matural appreciation of your beautiful body; you'll have aqauiantances who will acknowledge you for your giftedness: Tallents; leadership qualities once you begin to share them on the playing fields: You are I hope in College so out there with your fellow students your own age and gender representing your college in B-Ball: Net Ball rugby, a team sport of your choice; hockey etc' You have a whole life ahead of you to be lived to the full each day: You were brave with the help of your sister to tell on that beast/animal: Forget the past: have a chat with a counsellor or therapist who'll help you put all that he did to you in perspective and help you to let go of the eefects it had on you: Past tense: Let GO Lyn: I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH IT:

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