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Nov 10, 2007
Why I shared this story
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

Over the course of time, my mother learned that more happened in that house than I had let on. She kept probing me, until I finally admitted to some of what had happened. I didn't tell her everything, but what I did tell her sent her into a tirade. She called me a "tramp" and a "slut."

I want my visitors to understand that sometimes, when children are put in an impossible position, such as the position that I was put in, they are forced make choices that they cannot and should not be held responsible for. Don't ever make the mistake my mother made. Your child can NEVER be held accountable for making choices such as the one that I was forced to make.

Nov 10, 2007
ur a true survivor
by: emz

u arnt to blame for this u never was but i can see at the time u dont think like that but u survived and your not hiding it away i think your a great woman
cheers
Emz

Nov 11, 2007
Reply to Emz:
by: Darlene Barriere

That was so sweet of you to comment, Emz. I couldn't agree with you more: I was not to blame; no child is to blame when abuse takes place. Sadly, too many children don't understand that; even sadder is that way too many grow up and never understand that. I'm delighted that you are not one of those people. You DO understand that the fault lies solely with the abuser.

Emz, thank you for your complimentary words. And also, thank you for offering many of my story contributors your words of support and encouragement.

Nov 12, 2007
Comment
by: Anonymous

Darlene, I'm thrilled to finally get a chance to send you a comment. I think you're an absolutely extraordinary person that has clearly been through a lot; it's fantastic what you have been doing to help others in similar situations as your own. You are very brave and I hope you are never again ashamed of your actions because they are clearly inspirational to us all. Best of luck in all of your future endeavors.

Nov 13, 2007
Reply to Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere

Accolades are always gratefully accepted! Thank you so much for your heartening words.

I sincerely hope that you will continue to contribute to this site by helping others who have lived through terrible childhood adversity. When you—indeed, when all my visitors—provide encouragement and supportive comments to survivors of abuse, we band together and help each other heal. There is so much power in that.

Dec 03, 2007
sad
by: Anonymous

im so sorry for what happened to you. ur so brave u just wanted to protect the kids :(

Dec 03, 2007
To Anonymous who wrote "Sad":
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

Thank you for your heartfelt comment. I shared this memory because I know there are many other survivors out there who have been through something similar, and to get the message out to my visitors that choices children make do not necessarily make them responsible for the consequences.

I hope you'll continue to write supportive and encouraging words to my visitors who have so bravely shared their child abuse stories here on my site.

Jul 13, 2010
your courage inspires me
by: john

Darlene,
Your courage really inspired me when I read this. I know that you know now that submission does not mean consent and I have begun learning that too.

Jul 14, 2010
To John:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you so much, John. I believe that when we're inspired, we can inspire others...and I believe that's what YOU'LL be doing as well: inspiring others as you move through your own process. Keep up the great work!

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Jan 26, 2014
alanon meetings
by: Anonymous

I go to alanon meetings. They don't stop the bad stuff from happening, obviously, but they help give you language to work with. I'm sorry your Mother abused you when you told her what was happening in her friend's house.


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