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Dec 26, 2012
Dana:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I understand what those nights are like. I'm so glad that you felt safe enough to share what was keeping you up, what was tormenting you. I too used to lay awake at night, unable to stop the memories, and even when I did sleep, the nightmares took over. The sleepless nights began to lessen when I realized I needed help in dealing with what I was dealing with. When I stopped believing that I could do it all by myself. When I reached out for some professional help, which is where I learned to gain some perspective on what happened to me. It's always difficult when the abuse is continuing to go on, which is why I had to distance my Self from my abusers. We all do what we must in order for healing to begin. I must also say that if there is abuse going on with your siblings, you have a moral obligation to report that abuse. Do for your siblings what no one or few did for you. It is possible that you're memories are haunting you now as a result of knowledge that a sibling is being abused. Knowledge of abuse can definitely be a trigger for memories of abuse. You've taken a first step by writing your story here. Recognize that you survived the worst of it, and that now you're left with memories, emotions & thoughts. Recognize how strong you really are: you not only survived the abuse, you also turned a self-destructive pattern around. You now have someone in your life who loves you & you love him. These are all tremendous positives in your life. Reach out for the help you need, Dana. Seek out some form of therapy or counselling in order to help you deal with the memories & lingering emotions. Read through the multitude of comments here on this site for inspiration & guidance. And know that you are worthy of dignity, respect & love. Start with self-love by reaching out for what you know you need for you to walk along your own path of healing and recovery. I send you love, light and healing energy, Dana. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Dec 27, 2012
Comment deleted by Webmaster
by: Anonymous

From Darlene - Webmaster: Dana, and my other visitors to this thread, I've deleted comments from this particular commenter who leaves posts that are judgmental and wholly inappropriate. I cannot block her, but I'll continue to delete her comments before they ever go live on the site.

Dec 29, 2012
The horror part 1
by: Anonymous

Dana, your mom is deeply troubled and sadistic. I really hope you're out of that house now because she's just too dangerous to be trusted. As for your dad, he shouldn't be trusted neither because it's a shame that he decided to be like her. Oh, and you're none of those nasty, soul-stripping lies that they told you. Your life shouldn't have been used as a pawn for their immature, sick, sadistic misery as well as their ignorant ugliness. You deserved so much better than that crap. It's not your fault that they hurt you; they just refuse to accept their own responsibilities; you are important; you are lovable.

Dec 29, 2012
The horror part 2
by: Anonymous

I have to be honest with you; your story is a truly disturbing one and it makes me mad that some people could do such horrific stuff to their own flesh and blood. Again, I hope you're in a safe place now and that you try counseling because no more secrets can and will help put an end to the cycle of abuse and helplessness.

It's best to recognize their unhealthy behavior in order to help yourself as well as others who happen to be in the same situation as yourself. Oh, and making jokes about torturing you must've shown how uneducated and ignorant they really are. For starters, never be alone with abusers again.

You are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. I really hope you're in a safe place now, that you try counseling and that you look into reporting those beasts; children are gifts to treasure; not to abuse.

Jan 09, 2013
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Dana, I'm sorry about that sadistic abuse you were forced to endure. [Sometimes] people who treat others the way you were treated often do it out of jealousy because they could never be such a shining star that you are. You're a star! Anyway, that's a shame that your dad decided to be like that sicko of a mother. Anyway, I'm glad your husband's with you now because he's so sweet for doing that! Oh, and if you think it's too late to rescue your brothers, think again; it's never too late to do that, so please call the cops on those sick beasts for parents; I'm sure your brothers will thank you once you do it.

Feb 03, 2013
So little love shown
by: Anonymous

My heart goes out to you, Dana. All those years of trying to please your family and not receiving love. I'm glad you're out of that house now; you've suffered enough. Your parents are mentally ill, sadistic, deeply disturbed. They were using you (and still are using your brothers) as a dump; they probably won't change until someone makes them stop. Now that you got away from them, your healing can start in earnest.

Mar 17, 2013
from one Dana to another
by: Anonymous

I'm 23 and my name's Dana, too. I'm going to pray for you and everyone else here. Remember to always put faith in God, amd He will help you.

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