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Nov 26, 2009
No excuses for your mother...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Cristina, your mother probably repeated what she endured. The terrible things she called and told your sister she probably believes of herself, much as that might be difficult to comprehend, especially given the way she conducts herself. The fact that she says everyone else is "crazy" is likely how she tries to convince herself otherwise. You bring up such a good point when you identify the problems of your mother NOT seeking help. You and your sister were the collateral damage of her own battles, of her own lack of self-respect. There is no changing her; there is only changing how YOU deal with things, how YOU choose to live your life. I found that when I stopped trying to forget and chose instead to live my life to the fullest, and treat myself with the dignity and respect I never received, the memories eventually faded. But more importantly, whatever memories still come up (and they do every day as a result of reading so many child abuse stories), I am no longer emotional bound by them. Instead, I find that the memories help me to connect with each and every person who writes me their story. It really does start with you, Cristina. Your mother can no longer hurt you. You are now in a safe place. You are no longer the helpless little girl. You are strong and powerful. You wouldn't have made it through your childhood otherwise. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Nov 27, 2009
Even animals would never treat their young so sadistically
by: Anonymous

Cristina, your mother is wrong. You and your sister are not stupid, fat nor good for nothing; you guys are beautiful, smart and worthy of love and respect, all of which you guys were sadistically denied of. Your mother should've been locked up for all those terrible crimes that she committed against you guys because you guys did nothing wrong. I can relate; my so-called mother, too, calls me every name in the book, especially in Russian. Have you and your sister tried counselling? I am hurting for you guys.

Nov 27, 2009
relate
by: shay

I can relate to your story. My mother was physically and emotionally abusive. She is schizophrinic, and bipolar and many other things as she has been diagnosed with in prison. Refuses to take her medication and is an alcoholic and drug addict. My dad was mentally and sexually abusive and my mother would beat my dad as well. Would threaten him with knives tried stabbing him several times. But everyone kept trying to give my mom more chances to change but she has not and never will she too thinks she doesnt have a problem and its everyone else that is crazy.

Nov 27, 2009
Live well, laugh alot, love much,
by: maurice

Love much Cristina MB beginning with yoursefl today and for the rest of your life. Darlene how beautiful for her to share how she let go and lived her life to the full. you won't go too far wrong if you heed her loving heartfelt words to you, They are specially chosen for you and no one else. She is a professional Lady with a womans heart. She's only a few years aahead of you in age so she does emphatise with you. Well done for telling your story it was brave, it was courageous, Sadly you and your ssiter were two unlucky children to be birthed into such a home. Havin a mother who sadly knew no better but treat you both as she was treated herself, a father who was no help or did not know either. Having lived through it and been each others shoulder to lean on and come out to be as strong as you are today makes you a winner over abuse. Be sure to get all the help to keep healing from it, if you have the chance to get a few sessions with a counsellor do It will give you great peace of mind. Always believe in yourself, build on your Self Esteem, Self Worth, look in that mirror, Who do you see, I see a wonderful/beautiful woman saying all the positive things about yourself. I'm Special and I love me. It will make you feel really good inside and out Cristina MB

Dec 09, 2009
MY GRATITUDE TO ALL
by: CRISTINA MARIA

Thank you all for your positive feedback. I am seeing a counselor as well as a psychiatrist and am in group therapy. I have good days and bad days, but thankfully, I am continuing to heal and learning more about my "true" self every day. For so long, I tried to be the "perfect little child," now I'm trying to be happy being ME. If I can do it at age 48, I'm sure all you out there who have been victims of abuse and/or neglect can do it all.

Again, thank you all and I appreciate your input.

Still healing,
Cristina Maria

From Darlene: You are so welcome, Cristina. I'm so proud of you for all the hard work you are going through. I also know that you are so worth it. All the best of the season to you and yours.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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