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Jan 03, 2009
The ultimate form of rejection...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Conswella, you have been brought up with one of the worst possible forms of rejection. The racial prejudice of a mother against her child is incomprehensible. And your name is a constant reminder. I hear you when you say "Trust me, this is nothing I have told you to the true abuse that I have endured".

I'm going to break from my typical response here by suggesting a book that was an Oprah selection back in 2001: Cane River by Lalita Tademy. Check out second hand book stores in your area, but don't rule out your local library. Although the book is a work of fiction, it was written based on historical facts of the women in Tademy's family. I suggest this book, Conswella, not to offer an excuse for the way you've been brought up, but instead, to proffer a possible explanation. Even though that explanation is rooted in an era long ago gone by, you are living proof that such prejudice is sadly still alive today in families.

Regardless of what your family thinks and says, Conswella, your skin colour makes you beautiful, definitely NOT ugly. As for light coloured clothes, your skin colour would make them look fabulous!

You can't change your family, Conswella; you can only change how you look at things. Stay strong with your convictions; you'll do well with them. Your opening question: "Black on black racism: How much are you worth?" Not only are you perfect as you are, you are priceless, dear, absolutely priceless.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 03, 2009
What Lies Beneath
by: Linda

I just finished reading your story and I was totally angry when I finished. You have clueless idiots for family members! It is what's inside that body that counts. Somebody could be a knockout beauty on the outside and be a ugly person on the inside. God thinks you're beautiful and in my book that is all that matters. Don't let your family make you think your ugly. Skin color is nothing. Stand up and be you. They are probably jealous of you on the inside and want to bring you down to make themselves look good. I have sisters like them also. I don't let them bother me. Be yourself, Conswella.

Jan 05, 2009
Speaking of which, Linda is right
by: Francine

Conswella, your mom is a racist...and a jealous one, too. You are not ugly; even "being a black person" does NOT make you ugly. Skin color doesn't matter at all. Anyone is beautiful, light, tan and dark. You are beautiful, too. Don't let those racist scumbags in your family think otherwise. Don't listen to them either because even your mother is jealous of you. Don't let her jealously and racist comments overtake you. You might want to take counselling, Conswella, and I also hope that you tell someone about her racism towards you. Don't wait to long.

Jan 13, 2009
soo messed up
by: dana

y would ppl hate other ppl their own race? i dont get it ... mayb thats cuz i hate racist ppl .. u sound like a pretty n intellegent woman n i guess the best answer 2 my question is that ppl r ignorant n can do the stupidest things 2 hurt others but u r so not ugly..... u sound pretty smart really nice n really really friendly n i hope things will get better 4 u

Jan 15, 2009
do wat u want its ur chice dnt let nobady tell u wat to do
by: sydney

i went threw the same thing but not ezacly the same thing it happened when i went a friends house her mom was like you need to marry a spanish or a white man so kids can come out prtty i felt so offended but i didnt say anything but i will marry whom ever if im in love

Jul 29, 2009
One Incident after Another : In the Presence of my Mother
by: Conswella Rose

To all my motivated readers.
Thank you for your comment, I have always been fortunate in finding the best of friends in strangers.
I have written a book about my childhood, hopefully it will discourage the abusers and encourage the survivors of child abuse. This book details the pain and fear that I endured as a child, from unknown scars on my body today, to the pain of broken bones I am forced to remember. I have not yet settled on a publisher but when I do you all will be the first to know. The title of my book is exactly what my childhood was like.
One Incident after Another: In the Presence of My Mother
A Wise Survivor of Horrible child abuse
Conswella Rose

Aug 24, 2013
Thank You Survivors
by: Anonymous

Thank you for the support and kind words.
God Bless Us All.

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