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Nov 04, 2007
No adequate answers to your question
by: Darlene Barriere

There are plenty of theories, Connie, but they would only create more questions in your mind. You can analyze this to death, but you will never find an answer that in any way justifies what happened to you; there is no justification for what your mother did. Connie, even if she were to come to you and give you a thousand reasons, none of them would ever be good enough.

As long as you keep asking this question, this will keep you in the same place. It will take on a life of its own; and if it hasn't already, it will take over every aspect of your life. As long as you keep asking this question, you will never be able to move forward. Your mother and what she did or did not do to you will continue to control you and you will continue to give your power away to her.

Connie, there comes a point in everyone's adult life where they have to put certain episodes of their life into perspective in order to move forward. Although not a substitute for some form of therapy, if you can't afford counselling, consider joining an online support group. I will offer a word of caution, though. Online support groups are NOT made up of professionals. They really aren't intended as a therapy substitute as much as they are intended for providing encouragement from people who have lived through something similar. Don't be too quick to take advice given.

Nov 04, 2007
She Reaped What She Sowed
by: Francine

Connie, I am so sorry you had to go through this! Whatever your parents and your mom's so-called friends did to you was so unexcuseable! They need to go to jail for life! You might want to try a lot of counselling. You are not a liar, you are a beautiful, honest person; don't ever let anyone think otherwise! The only liar that I see comes from your so-called parents and the so-called boyfriends!

Nov 04, 2007
No reason
by: Mike

There is no reason for your mother, or anyone, to treat you like that. I still don't get why people abuse. Keep fighting for your daughter. In court, tell the people that you were abused and your mother didn't care. They will never let your mother get your daughter.

Stay strong

Nov 05, 2007
Hi
by: Anonymous

Hi, I read your story reseaching for school for a report I was doing on child abuse. I didnt realise that child abuse was so bad and common and your story made me realise how much child abuse was overlooked. I wish you well for the rest of your life and I hope that child abuse will stop.

Nov 05, 2007
SORRY
by: Anonymous

wow u have a crazy story i feel sorry for u and that sucks what ur mom did to u

just know that the wrold loves u and the pray to god that thouse same pepole dont hurt u more then the pain that ur feelingn write know



pray to god cuz the wrold luves u

Nov 07, 2007
question
by: Anonymous

do you have your child or did your mom get custody

Nov 07, 2007
answer
by: Connie

No I have my baby. I am now 24 this happened when i was 18.

Nov 10, 2007
Good for you!
by: Anonymous

Wow!i'm speechless!ok morphine works by blocking out pain and if u take a large amount of it than you might forget somethings.back to hte suject.Its really nice that ur working hard and i'm very sorry u had to go throught that.however you did ur best and u don't need counseling just talk to ur friends and they will help you

Nov 10, 2007
Congrats!
by: Francine

Connie, I'm so glad that you succeeded in fighting for your daughter! I'm proud of you and the court for defeating your mother by making sure that she doesn't get custody of your daughter. You are such a strong woman!

Nov 11, 2007
To Francine:
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

As I understand it, Francine, Connie was saying that she wondered if her mother took steps to ensure she DID receive morphine (by taking her hospital-issued allergy bracelet and her glasses) in order to gain custody of her daughter. I don't believe she was saying that she fought her mother in court for custody. Perhaps Connie herself can clear this up.

Connie has asked us to give her some answers, if at all possible, as to why her mother would do such a thing. I interpret her request to mean that she wants to understand her mother's motive. I gave my reply; others have given support. Connie also asked if anyone could explain how morphine works. I trust this is also to determine her mother's motives.

Nov 12, 2007
answers
by: Connie

Yea it looks like i need to clear a few things up..I know for sure my mother had my allergy braclet. I dont know why she did it. Gaining costody of my daughter was just one of several ideas that have crossed my mind. The truth is i have no idea why she did it or why she treated me the way she did while i was growing up.

Yea my glasses have really nothing to do with anything either except for the fact that when my mother was looking for them to give back to me she accidently pulled out the bracelet that was supposed to be on my wrist. Your exactly right Darlene my mother never did take me to court or anything like that. My daughter is now 5 years old.I'm sorry this is so confusing!! Trust me its all very confusing to me too!!! This is also why I don't talk to anyone real close to me because it's all so confusing and i have no answers to why or motive..Just that it happened. :( I also want to say ty for reading and leaving your comments i have read all of them and though dont feel better about all this, it is very nice to finally get it out and have some opinions and uplifting words! I really do appreciate it! ty Please any other questions just ask i'll be happy to try to answer them

Nov 12, 2007
To Darlene Barriere
by: Francine

You're right, Darlene, I'm sorry.

Nov 12, 2007
To Francine:
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

You don't need to apologize, Francine. Misunderstandings happen. Connie was really good about clearing up the misconceptions. Feel free to offer your opinion on the question she was asking; I'm sure she would appreciate it. As always, I only ask that you—that all my visitors—remain respectful in their comments.

Nov 13, 2007
Dont ruined your life
by: selena mendoza

hello my name is selena and i'm writting to you because your story is kind of confusing look i think the same thing as you that your mother took your bracelet away from you please the people at the hospitals and clinics know what to give you and what not to give you dont listen to noone how that person you said you are close to lnows you are allergic to morphine he went to the doctor with you and the doctor told him you are allergic to morphine dont listen to other people thats the advice i give you look the doctors and nurses now what they are doing take care and dont let nobody ruined your live.

Nov 14, 2007
that sucks
by: Anonymous

man that sucks i was also born in 1983 and to read your story really upset me. i grew up in a perfect home mum and dad on a farm with heaps of love and trust. i have three kids and all my mum and dad do for me is give me total support. What your mum is doing and has done is totally wrong. I think that you should tell her to go away from you and think about all that she has put you through she doesnt deserve to be a part of yours and your daughters lives! I genually hope that you have a great life from now on in and i hope that you bring your daughter up with love and protection please dont make this thing a cycle that doesnt end. Love your daughter respect her and in turn she will love and respect you too. Remer that children are sponges and every thing she sees is what she will learn. Good luck with the rest of your life i hope that it is happier and more comfortable for you than the last 24 years have been.

Nov 14, 2007
__PLS PLS THINK OF CONSEQUENCES-
by: Anonymous

I think you should seek anyone-anyone who has a good heart and can at least you give you a roof ove ryour daughter's head--save money and GET OUT AND GET AWAY!!! your mother is a very unstable and unhealthy besides UNLOVING mother--do u want ur daughter subjected to any of wat u went thru?? I know its easier said than done, but girly, oh my girly, just think of what might happen if u dont start a new life--not even for u, for your child...a girl, right? come on-THINK ABOUT IT!!!

Nov 14, 2007
A clear up from Connie
by: Connie

Um Hmm, Obviously HAnonymous __PLS PLS THINK OF CONSEQUENCES- missed something while reading what I wrote! I am 24 NOW!! I don't live with my motherj. I actually moved out less then a week after this all happened! My daughter has nothing` to do with these ppl...I'm am not that stupid or naive! I am now married and I have 2 daughters. They have never been subjected to any kind of abuse (thank god!) and I do my best to keep it that way! I really don't think a person who has gone through physical and mental abuse can honestly be that blind to the world! THINK ABOUT IT!!

These events r in the past....its the affects of them thats in the present!

Nov 16, 2007
You are amazing !
by: Ella Abbott UK

hey connie, my name is ella abbott, im 16 years old.
There is a reason as to why i am reading stories on child abuse as i am looking into it very carefully for my school work.
I have to put myself in a position you have been through all your life for my coursework.
I think you are unbelievably strong, and i had to message you on how well you are dealing with your personal situation, as u did say you live with this, and i can't imagine what you have been through, but for me even reading your story deeply saddened me and to think people actually can do that to another humanbeing, i am sorry that i cannot help you with information on morphine as i only know a little from past research.I would just like to say good luck with everything in your life, i'm happy you are now married and have a wonderful daughter. Take care .. ella x

Nov 18, 2007
Mystery
by: Linda

Hi, I read your story and I sure am baffled. I think your instincts are correct. You may never know unless you were able to get the truth out of your mother. I wouldn't bet you will ever know the truth. You could possibly ask her former boyfriends but it's all too risky if you ask me. I think your best efforts will be spent creating your own family and new values and traditions for them. Your own success will be your healing. Keep seeing people you can talk to and build yourself a network of friends. Your success as a mom wight be trying here and there but it is the ultimate reward for having endured abuse at the hands of others. They were bad to you. They were wrong. You didn't deserve any of that. But you wont do that to your child. The buck stops here. It's all your life from here on out. Hang tough. Never surrender. Youre gonna be ok.

Dec 14, 2007
WOW!
by: Anonymous

Dear Connie,
Oh my goodness!I am so sorry. That is so crazy. I just had a miscarriage not too long ago I am 15 and my nineteen year old fiance (ex) were trying to be together but he just wound up getting me pregnant with his second kid. But I had a miscarriage just last month and it was a little boy. I am so sorry for what you had to go through. I wish you the best of luck with your daughter and your husband I hope everything works out in your favor. I will pray 4 YOU!!! xoxo

Dec 29, 2007
im sorry
by: Anonymous

connie i am sorry that happend to u i wanna say god bless u and yer husband and child.

Apr 14, 2008
wow
by: Anonymous

that is so sad but you know that a mother who hates her is not a mother at all. and a mother wouldnt sit there and let her xhild her daughter get molested by there father. and then sit there like she didnt know then pay your boyfriend to rape you if you are confused and there no one to help i know some one and his name is jesus call on him and hell guide you to what your looking for. you didnt do nothignwrong for your mother to hate you she proably dosent deserve you.just look to god an hell help you just keep you rhead up

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