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Jun 25, 2009
Your friend is right; you need to tell someone...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I appreciate that you've been honest about posting under another name; I sincerely thank you for that. And yes, I did receive that post under the name of "a friend".

And I'm so very sorry that I can no longer offer comments to my visitors (please see yesterday's post from me: Announcement Regarding my Comments), other than to point you to other stories and comments I (and so many others) have already offered to visitors on this site. You'll find many of those comments apply to you, dear.

I also strongly urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you are dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. And right now, you definitely need someone to listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose what you are dealing with. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help. You are MOST certainly worthy of the help. And you certainly have a wonderful friend in your teammate.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 25, 2009
who believes in you.? who values you.? who respects you.?
by: maurice

Confused and afraid don't give up on yourself. Always believe in yourself. Where you find yourself just NOW is difficult to put a value on and answering the above questions will take time. You have the answers to all three. All you need do is name names and trust them. Your folks parents are so selfish and pre-occupied with themselves that they have lost the plot of rearing children. You are naturally gifted sports wise, athletic wise. Parents who put there own misguided aims for you are doing you wrong. they are building up their own ego's out of your natural giftedness. there friends are giving them all the credit for having such a gifted child/teenager not knowing their ruining your self worth, your self esteem by the pressure they are putting on you. You know you're good, listen only to one voice, your coach, Hi don't you quit believing in yourself. In years to come you'll be very proud of yourself for making a stand. You have a chosen few who you trust, value for who they are in your life. you have your own peers in college, on the sporting arena. trust them they will carry you through this confused time of your adolecent years. You'll be a winner.

Jul 23, 2009
thank you
by: confused and afraid

Thank u so much for the advice. Also this website has helped me so much. Im slowly telling ppl & by giving them this its easier for me 2 do so.

To continue my story..my mom is thinking about moving 2 New York & live with my birthfather. therefore, I would be away from my friends, teammates, & the ppl Ive told & trust. Above I said that I drank once or twice. That really isnt true i did it alot. But all it did was make things worse; like the ppl I trust said that if I continued they would leave. I dont want that 2 happen. I can have that happen 2 me anymore. I just cant handle it mentally.

I dont want 2 turn out like my parents & my grandparents. But how can I not? Im worried & afraid of the future. There are so many things that can happen. Like what if I get hurt in xc? then I wont be able 2 pay for college my grades arent good so there isnt another way I can get in. I cant stop thinking of the bad things & what bad things might happen. I just cant do it alone, & hopefully writing on this helps. thank you

Oct 18, 2009
I carry you in my heart
by: Robyn - USA

Please know that I have read your story & YOU ARE SPECIAL and WONDERFUL!! You were born to this earth for a purose & you have truly carried more than your share and been refined by "fire". BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ALWAYS, even when no one else does!!! YOU have so much to offer and are unique, gifted, you have care and feelings for yourself and others ~ you add much value to the world by being here!! We will never understand those so close to you that are soo hurtful.. the story is all too common these days. YOU make a difference, going forward. No matter how tough it gets, NEVER LET GO OF HOPE. As you get older you will be in charge of your actions. YOU can make the difference for your own life. Look in the mirror each day & tell yourself, in the mirror, that YOU are worth it. YOU are a wodnerful unique woman. Bless you dear! I carry you in my heart!

Oct 19, 2009
It is ever so natural to be afraid and confused
by: maurice

When you feel you are alone in your feelings with no one to relate them to in confidence and trust. At 15 it is not a happy place to be, especially with parents who are devorcing, indifferent to their reponsibilities to you and your brother. You are highly intelligent. How right you are to have figured out that drinking will not help you. Be strong for yourself in that whole area of your emotional life. I have journeyed with all kinds of young people and their families for over forty years now. I have come to know teenagers have their own beautiful nature ways of interacting and relating to each other weighing each other up quickly regarding how much or how little they can relate to each other in trust. but all find that special one which I anm certain you have. This friend is beyond BOY/GIRL relationships they are your source of total respect and trust. With that special friend confused and afraid you will get it right for yourself. Together be tell a Teacher/Counsellor at school or indeed just bring this what you've written to Darlene to the Authorities. There is help professionally and naturally around you just be brave and strong and go for it. Also read all the comments over again and get renewed courage from doing so. Always believe in yourself. I'M Special, I love ME. I am the most important child of God and the Universe that was ever birthed sadly into a family not of your making. So anything that has happened you in abuse IS NOT YOUR FAULT. So no blaming yourself. Build up your self esteem. LOOK in the mirror see someone very see that special me in the mirror with beuty from top to bottom. be kind and gentle to that beautiful body of yours. soothe it every opportunity you get. with all the skin creams available to make you feel really good inside and out while doing so. ERRA go on it will do you a power of good. Hug love into yourself so you can share it with those who are most important to you now in your life.

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