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Apr 14, 2009
You and your husband have created a house of respect...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Colleen, you suffered at the hands of the people who were responsible for protecting you and keeping you safe from harm. You were betrayed in the worst of ways. Yet you found a way out of that darkness, into the light of hope and happiness.

You found a man who is a true loving partner, one who is supportive and encouraging. You have found what I would call a "real" man. Your husband understands that what happened to you was not your fault, and will NEVER BE YOUR FAULT. The fact that you chose such a man to spend your life with is a testament to your inner strength, your devotion to not repeat history. With very little personal experience to draw upon, other than bearing or witnessing brutal abuse, you still chose someone who treats you with the dignity and respect you deserve. And from what you've written, he showers his children with love and nurturing. I for one stand up and applaud you for the healthy choices you've made for yourself and for your precious children, Colleen. Well done!

Now that you've felt safe enough to share with your husband (and now others), your healing can begin. But healing takes work and time. Another healthy choice would be to seek out some form of counselling in order to help you with all the residual emotions that stem from what you lived through. You didn't deserve to be physically or emotionally abused. You didn't deserve to be sexually assaulted. You didn't deserve to have a mother who abandonment and betrayed her children in favour of a man she barely knew, a man who was so deeply disturbed that he drowned himself in alcohol. What you DO deserve is the loving, compassionate and supportive husband that you have. What you also deserve is help dealing with the effects that your abusive past has left you with. The best gift you can give to your children is to take good care of their mother. Counselling would be an excellent place to start.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 15, 2009
The hope you give to others is huge.
by: maurice

Colleen, you'r the best, you're wonderful' you're brave, you're strong with a loving/carimg man in your life from a family who loved and cared for him. Respect Colleen is a the center of true love. Thank God you've found it. Your story is your story, no comparrisons. You were just one unlucky child to be born into the unreal and dreadful lifestyle of your Mother. Uncaring of you her beautiful child, marrying or bedding down with very horrible men who did horrendous abuse to you as an innocent child at their mercy to do what they did to you. Oh Colleen, your ever so right by you having the courage to tell you have given others a hope that I know they will be so grateful to you for. You offer great advice, you offer real love to another who does find herself/himself in smiliar type tragic family situations. Drink/drig lifestyles of women/men who have children is such unreal circumstance does not allow them to take away the innocence of a child and do what they did to you and your sister. Colleen great you have found one grea Man who LOVES you. Others knowing that such great men are out there will give them believe in themselves and get away from being used and abused. Thank you. Say I'm Special, I'm Beautiful and I'm me. Love you both. Happy journeying together.

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