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Jun 29, 2011
CLB:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Some people remember every detail, while some people remember only random events. Some events can be sketchy, while others are etched into the memory banks to never be forgotten. And when you have someone who's messing with your mind, telling you that what you do remember is wrong, well it gets very confusing, like you said. I have a different gauge: The effects you've endured as a result of abuse say it all. You don't need me or others telling you you either did or didn't make it up, or that what you endured was or wasn't abuse. There are people who believe what happened to you was perfectly normal and even "okay", but I am not one of those people. Nor will I allow anyone to come on my site and say that what happened to you was normal "discipline", because I do not believe it was. Even within the law that says spanking is acceptable (a law I do not support in any way shape or form) your mother went way over the line. And she was emotionally abusive. I strongly suggest two things: One, go to the left-hand margin and click on the links on the nav bar there to learn more about the various types, effects and signs of abuse. You'll get some of the answers you're looking for within those pages. Two, contact one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially. Your father is living in a state of denial, and that is only serving to worsen your state of mind. Instead of questioning whether or not what happened to you was real, look toward dealing with the repercussions. You didn't deserve to be mistreated. You DO deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 29, 2011
I believe you, I believe you, I believe you!
by: Anonymous

CLB, I can't believe that your dad would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick, sadistic, ignorant monster of a mother and allow her to beat and berate you everyday...how dare he! That's not discipline; that's just torture and it's also all about power and control. Oh, and she is wrong. You are not stupid; you are not lazy; you are smart and articulate. You are not a brat; you are not a b****; you are not careless; you are a good, caring, beautiful person. Don't ever believe any of those lies that she was spewing. She doesn't know how to love even herself; all she ever knew is hate so she should've known better and loved and cherished you. If she didn't want to be there, then she should've had the courage to give you up for adoption and leave instead of sadistically abusing you in this way. The path that she and your dad chose was and still is inexcusable. Plus, she is a manipulator and I'm sorry to even believe that she really wanted you to fail just so she could keep controlling you. Mothers who abuse their own daughters are one of the real abusers. You are not to blame for her sadistic, ignorant behavior; she is to blame because, first of all, something's seriously wrong with her; second of all, she chose to abuse you. You were the child; she was the adult; she had all the power and only misused it over you, so the sooner you tell, the better. Darlene's right! Please tell someone you really trust (yes, you can even tell any sympathetic relative you have too) and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. Oh, and please look into reporting your so-called parents (especially that beast of a mother) to prison.

Jun 30, 2011
What a brave girl/teenager YOU are: Always believe in YOURSELF
by: MAURICE

CLB: what a helpful comment from Darlene's womans heart to you: I stress that CLB because she sure does empatise with you personally in your confusion: Read her comment in every detail because each detail has a loving message for you: You are very Intelligent CLB: have no doubt there: You wrote what was in your heart: Deep within you will truly make a sense and you will have to decide whether you accept it was physiacl, emotional abuse etc: I have no doubt when you slowly make sense of what Darlene wrote in her comment to you you call it by name what it was: SPANKING, being beaten with a belt or with whatever with one's Pants down is out and out abuse and is wrong: I acknowledge Darlene's stance and understanding in what she wrote to you: She is truly amazing but is a dedicated, committed highly qualified steward of her safe haven site: You will be okay: You'll get the help she knows will do you a power of good: Now you are only 15: NOW is the time to widen your horizons, stay in eduaction: Start today having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Does this mean I have to get off my bottom: Oh yes it does CLB no more TV overdosing yourself: and having a lazy attidude: Get off your BOTTOM now; get out and about taking part with your own age and gender taking part in TEAM sports and sporting and cultural activities: OH CLB: it will make a big differnece in your whole outlook on life and indeed yourslef: Your mind will widen out, you'll begin to believe in yourself: Be gentle and kind: Value and respect your body so that you will make sure others will like-wise especially in your choosing who build realtionships with: Have and you will find them among your team mates true natural friends your own age and gender: Most important so you can watch out for each other and help each other to blossom into mature thinking young adults and adults: CLB look in the mirror, now admire that wonderful and beautiful me smiling out at you: Say loving things about yourself and that body of yours: Go on give it a hug and a cuddle, there's no one looking It will give you great comfort feelings: you'll feel totally YOU: I do every time I do it: Follow Darlene's comment step by step:

Jun 30, 2011
I THINK YOU NEED HELP FOR SORTIN OUT WHAT IS REAL ABUESE AN WHAT ISNT
by: Anonymous

i dont know who her is but yeah thats nuts whas she your real mom or you dont know or his wife who then, why is i cherished my kid protected her but i worried that maybe that he her dad when separated had another women or a pretend wife who knows you need to get proof very important you do know you were abused a fact that they lied either who it was to you real mom or maybe not or the dad lied to you why is we had other family i found out lies as adult even stole money even so i beleive you but i think where you were the address is what they look at where did it happen the dates when an go to a couselor too so you figure out who she was for real not that it didnt happen but that it did but what one did this exactly if you do a time line they call it try to dates and also where it happen then a couselor can help sort of fact from fiction you did get abused an thats all important you know that but who was she really figure it out ok start off coueslor tell them you dont know why they lie say it didnt happen i found out stuf i nevet thought real say my own parents divorced a lie say that why they stole my parents money years it took they also take years just do this start an live your normal alife while you work on what really happen an you do know you got abused an yes its strange they say you lie maybe why is that it was another person did it to you a couselor can figure taht out with you if you do this you be ok i hope so i am so sorry that happen to you people lie an twist stuff but remember one thing for REASONS THEY LIE ABOUT STUF FOR REASONS THEY SCAPEOAT OTHERS YOU THE VICTIM AND THEY ALSO USE OTHERS SCAPEGOATS LIE TO COVER THE TRUTH WHO ABUSED YOU AN ALOT OF THINGS I BELEIVE YOU AN OTHERS DO AN WOULD TOO LATER YOU FIGURE IT OUT OK
THE DRAGING STUFF AN HITTIN AN MEAN STUFF THATS ABUSE YOU NEED COUSELOR SO TO SORT OUT WHAT IS WHAT IS WHAT YOU NEED I AM WELL SORRY YOU FEEL SO BADLY I BELEIE YOU OK

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