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May 27, 2008
Definitely TELL someone...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your cousin RAPED you; he is likely raping other children. You cannot worry about what will happen to him. He needs to be held accountable for his actions. And so does the gardener. They are sex offenders and BOTH are likely still offending other children.

You cannot keep EITHER situation a secret any longer! This is about your safety and the safety of other helpless children. Contact ChildLine on 0800 1111. Check out their website at www.donthideit.com for more information.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

May 28, 2008
omg !!
by: Anonymous

how old are you now you should tell on him andthat gardener......


this is seriuose

May 29, 2008
Nightmares and justice
by: Hayley

Darlene's right about getting justice Clare. They know that what they did was utterly wrong and deplorable, hence their decisions to threaten you and scare you into silence. I don't hate you, and neither will anyone else. They like me will admire you for being so strong. It isn't easy to disclose what happened to you, however, if your family really do care about you, they will support you all the way. You are a special young girl Clare and you can deal with this. Making the disclosure has to be done in your time, and in your own way. Tell the people you love first, and make them realise that you have a right to justice.

As for the nightmares, while they are distressing for anyone, I am 29 and am extremely relieved I am able to talk to a good friend at work. It does get to me, and when offered a night with the guarantee of not having any, I took it up with both hands. They will get better, and in time they will hopefully cease to occur. I'm not going to say they definitely will, or when they will stop, but when you find a way to deal with what has happened to you, thing will hopefully dissipate and you will have better night's sleep.

Good luck kid, you've done so well and been so incredibly strong. Now you've taken the first step to email this website about it. The next step is to tell you parents.

Hayley has a "room" on OpenSpace at Hayley's (Screwloose) Room.

May 29, 2008
I can't tell
by: Clare F.

im 13 now

but there's no way i could tell, he swore he would kill me and he knows where i live.

ive tried to block everything out and get over it but nothing works

i still love my cousin a lot and nothing could change that

May 31, 2008
Threats
by: Hayley

Perverts do that because they know that what they are doing is totally wrong. They are bullies and know that they will not be able to take the consequences. What they are obviously too thick to realise is that they will, with some luck, get murder and will not get out of prison, except in a box.

You have to take the risk, and tell the police that you are scared about them coming back to get you. You have a right to justice kiddo, you're too special to let these people wreck your life with their cruel actions.

Go for it kid, I'm right behind you. Tell the cops as soon as you feel able, and stress the fact that you have been threatened with death because you have told.

Jun 02, 2008
Can't tell
by: Hayley

That's what you think now, but you really need to tell someone, anyone. Ultimately it is up to you when you talk to someone, and who, and what you say. You deserve justice against these people. Don't tell anyone until you are ready, but I, like many other people strongly advise that you tell someone when you are ready. I am on your side, you have so many people backing you. For now just write it down, it may help take away the trauma of telling. At least think about what I have said. I'm only on the other side of a computer monitor kid, let us know how you get on when you have started the ball rolling. They are just a bunch of cowards and they can't stand justice. At your age when I was being abused by my brother I wouldn't say anything, even though I was constantly wetting the bed. It's a big step to make, and we will all be so proud of you when you have made it. We're proud of you anyway, but that pride will just keep on growing.

Jun 02, 2008
i understand
by: Anonymous

ino how u feel clare; it seems like theres no way out. well, i can tell how much u love ur cousin, cuz hes family. but clare, if he loved u, why would he do such a horrible thing like that? think about it clare. the people u love are supposed to protect u from these things.

Nov 23, 2009
im sorry
by: Anonymous

im sorry that you still feel like your cousin loves you in a special way!I know what that feels like and sooner or later you haft to let him know that what he did was not ok!he betrayed you and you need to speak out on both of them! good luck

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