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Nov 15, 2010
Clara:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

For goodness sakes, you were sexualized as a little child because of abuse; and now you are applying mature, adult values to what you did as a little girl! Give yourself a break! Please seek out some form of counseling in order to put what happened to you in perspective. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Nov 16, 2010
sexualized as a child
by: my two cents

I echo Darlene's comments. You are applying adult knowledge to your four to seven year old self. How could you know it was wrong when it is what your brother and older cousins were doing to you?

One thing I notice from your story, YOU STOPPED when you realized it was wrong. I think that takes enormous strength and courage on your part.

I hope you discuss these events with a counsellor and continue to be in a safe place.

Be well.

My two cents.

Nov 21, 2010
Be Brave: Be strong. Be persevering
by: maurice

Clara: I am certain you will love yourself, value yourself. appreciate the goodness and the greatness that is within you: Your story is so brave in the telling that Darlene's Comment and that of my two cents will do your self esteem a power of good: Darlene's loving re-affirming total heartfelt words will empower you: You, acknowledged your weakness but you had the inner strength and courage to say, NO MORE: good on you: Now get on with living your life to the full: You will empower others who were abusive and abused to take heart: There is life after abuse: equally after being an abuser: Don't Quit: Don't give up on yourself: Live well: laugh alot: LOVE much beginning with yourself: Take both comments to heart and Alwyas believe in yourself:

Nov 22, 2010
Thank you!
by: Clara

Hello everyone,

thank you all so much for your comments, they mean so much to me. All of your comments have truly helped me because I feel I can breathe better and that there really is hope for me. I have been trapped in pain for so long, suffering silently that I got used to suffering because I felt that I deserved to suffer until I died. But now, I am beginning to realize that there really is hope for everyone, even me. And I will try to be strong for myself and also for other people who need as much or more help than I. Once again, thank you all so much for your time to comment on my story. I truly appreciate them.

With all my heart,
Clara.

Nov 26, 2010
THANK YOU: You are truly a very special person
by: maurice

Clara, it is wonderful feed back from the comments of positivity, love, affection, care, concern, affirming, goodness expressed from the heart to you: Thank you, you made me feel important this morning that my words to you were empowering: Always believe in yourself: Darlene's knew well her site would bring such wonderful news how her site benefits each one of her many visitors: I believe her comments to each one personally is the break through: The rest of us then who were abused in whatever form empatise with each other because we all know the pain and the effects it had on each one personally: I really get affirmation when I read the story firstly but in the comments especially Darlene's it show hearts do speake to hearts even from a distance Thank You Clara.

Dec 06, 2011
I hear you
by: Gem

Hi Clara,

I can't help but share with you and everyone else who wants to comment on my post that I think I know how you feel. When I was a little girl, I too was physically abused by my parents. Almost all the time I had to be careful not to do something that bothered them otherwise I would get beat up but my older sister was the one who got beat up the worst most of the time. And because I was scared of them is that I never said anything about me being sexually abused. Something that stands out to me from your story is that you said that you hurt others just like they hurt you and this is something I can relate with you. After being sexually abused I became sexually active and my earliest memory of me having sex was that of age seven or eight I think. I don't remember everything that happened to me when I was a child and maybe it's because I blocked some of them because they were too painful. But I do remember feeling guilty all the time for being that way. I read books and articles on childhood trauma to try to understand that what I did at such a young age was a result of all the abused I was exposed to but even then I never stopped feeling guilty. My life has just been so complicated and I tend to push people away because I'm afraid of opening myself to others and getting hurt. I tried talking to a doctor before about my past but I got scared and left. I think your story is similar to mine.

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