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Feb 27, 2011
Cea:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's no surprise that you are having difficulty feeling love after the horrific abuse you endured at such a young age. But if you don't get help for yourself, your children are going to suffer the consequences. Children KNOW when a parent doesn't feel love for them, which is how they will interpret you not feeling love from them when they hug you; this kind of a response is innate in children. Please contact a woman's shelter to learn of any resources that might be available to you. You cannot do this alone. Keeping it all inside and secret will only serve to adversely manifest in all areas of your life. That has already begun with your inability to feel love. Always remember, Cea, what happened to you was not your fault. You have no blame in any of it. As for "Greatness", consider that your father saw in you what you seem unable to see in yourself. There IS greatness in you, but you must first see it and believe it yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 27, 2011
Shocking
by: Bethana

Your past was schocking. The way the people in your life treated you was disgusting and sick! When you remember your past just think, "At least i KNOW i am so much better than them!" And you are. I hope the sad mongrels who treated you the way they did get their come-upings!

Feb 27, 2011
The horror
by: Anonymous

Cea, your parents [your mom and step-dad, to be honest] and even your step-dad's girlfriend are so twisted and screwed up that they don't even know how to take care of themselves, not to mention be parents/guardians to you. They don't know how to love even themselves; all they knew was hate so they should've known better and loved and cherished you. Oh, and that girlfriend is a truly cowardly and sadistic beast who should be locked up with your psycho step-dad for all those terrible crimes that they committed against you. Oh, and your mom was and still is wrong. You're not filthy, you're not worthless; you are beautiful and worthy of love, dignity and respect. Oh, and nothing will ever be your fault; those beasts are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and they only misused it over you. However, I'm glad your husband is with you now because he is so sweet for doing that; I just hope that you will try counselling. I wish you, your husband and even your baby all the best.

Feb 28, 2011
why do innocent children as they grow up have to suffer the effects:?
by: maurice

Cea, your mother was cruel from day one of your birthing: Did you ever think of having a second name. one that makes you happy: Your truthful open up your real heart felt feelings about how those animalistic individuals treated you as a beautiful innocent child who should have been loved and cherished as a precious child of God and the Universe: That is who you are today beautiful, full of nature, sensitivity and loving of your preciousness, your child great he has a father who value and respect you both: I believe the one who searches for and finds this safe haven site is on the road to new beginnings, healing, and becoming a person to be a winner over their abusers: From victim to victory just like the gifted woman who had vision and steward of her site Darlene: Cea: she has given you a womans heart full of love, understanding and real empathy to your heart: read and act on her words of help and encouragement: let go, erase the horrible memories of pain, bruises, humiliation etc: What happened Cea was and will be never ever your fault: stop blaming yourself for what those sickos did to you: I'm Special: I'm unique, I gifted, tallented, loving, caring, a real woman/mother in my very own right: I am going to live my life to the full with the love and care of people around me who value and respect me for who I am and become for them in thier lives: Speak with a counsellor/therapist who will put all you wrote to Darlene and her visitors into perspective for you: Hug the love you seem to be feeling not able to feel back into your body when you see the wonderful you in front of the mirror: Hugs and cuddles and be gentle and kind to that body of yours: Erase the memories of the beatings, the pulling of your hair by gently soothing your body with scented creams and oils: Comb your hair with love: I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH it: That you are Cea:

Feb 28, 2011
Cea
by: Mrs. RF.

I am so sorry Cea for all the pain and suffering you went through and are still going through. As a survivor myself I can relate to the fear, pain and feeling dead. It sounds like you were disasosiating from yourself which means when things get to become too much for certain children/people we go into our selves to try and hide from the abuse and it can make the person feel numb.
I really would encourage you to seek counseling Cea. you need to talk to some one that you can trust and get out all of the repressed memories that you have. The more you talk about it the better you will feel.
You must learn to love and like yourself and above all never ever blame yourself sweetheart, you were never to blame, it was not your fault that these terrible I don't even want to call them humans because they are evil.
Love your children and always listen to them and believe them, but please get therapy for yourself so that you can move on with your life.
Good Luck Cea, I actually like your name, it is very pretty as I am sure you are:)
Good Luck, and good health.

Mar 28, 2011
Alive for a reason
by: BMW Princess

You are alive for a reason.
Some people would have died. The fact that God chose not to take you home that evening means he /she still has work for you to do on Earth.
Use your life.

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