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Apr 08, 2011
Cassi:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm very happy that you got out of that abusive environment and that you've found someone to love who loves you back. But I am very concerned that you've turned to a relationship to solve your problems. A relationship will not do that for you, much as that might seem to be the case right now. You said that your relationship got you out of the abuse, but you don't know what you don't know, Cassi. Your ability to see things as they really are may well be compromised as a result of what you endured with your family. Please seek out some type of counselling in order to help you deal with the effects of what you lived through at the hands of a brutal father, and a mother who chose to do nothing to keep you safe from harm. Afraid or not, as your mother it was her responsibility to keep you safe when your father was the one harming you. You didn't deserve to be abused. You deserve help now that you have been. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 09, 2011
love
by: michelle f

Please get counsling,the person that got you out may be the one,he needs to help you get counsling and to help you may need counsling to.The feelings,memories,pain,lonelyness,guilt. will never go away but we all can live with it when we face it and learn to go thru and bring ourselves out,anger,thoughts,hate,blame,lost,etc...We place all these feelings upon ourselves then and later on in life,if we could learn earlier when we escape from the abuse the better we all will feel i am 40 just now starting to let go...so you two will have a good life together please see together counsler and good luck for you both best wishes

Apr 10, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

Cassi: Great you found Darlene's site: NOW please read with your new found friend read it over slowly together: she sure has spoken from her heart to you: Michelle F in her comment out of her love and concern for you has written from her heart to you: I want you to be safe and to stay safe while you get on with living your life to the full: Great you found a person with a caring, respectful, valueing nature: Grow together in total LOVE of each other by allowing each other the respect to blossom as individuals and together: you both are maturing as individual with the help and support of each other: I am going to ask you both to have ahealthy mind in a healthy body: This means being out and about with your own ages and gender taking part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities: you'll both make real and natural friends for life with numerous aquaintances to cheer you up when you meet: Allow each other to grow: Friendship is a very precious jewel: cassi you seemed to have found one: Remember too that he has found one in you too: be in charge of your own thinking, life and destiny in mutual love and respect of each other:

Apr 11, 2011
Such Horror
by: Anonymous

Cassi, you were given a raw deal because your "dad" (well, if one can even call him that) was so twisted and messed up that he didn't even know how to take care of himself, never mind be a father to you and even your brother. He should've known better and loved and cherished you. As for your mom, well, it's her job to protect you from that beast, whether she's afraid of not. Back to that sicko of a dad, well, he didn't deserve to have such a beautiful daighter like you; you didn't deserve to have such a twisted, sadistic dad; you deserved so much better than what he did to you. Oh, and he is wrong. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of. Oh, and you are not to blame for his sadistic, ignorant behavior; he is to blame because abusers choose to abuse. You were the child; he was the adult; he had all the power and he misused it over you. However, I'm glad your fiance is with you now because he is so sweet for doing that, so you don't need your terrible, ignorant monster of a dad; you don't need to spend any of your time nor emotions on such a sexist person that denies the truth of girls/women being equal to boys/men; in fact, even girls, boys, men and women are all created equally. Anyway, I hope that you will try counselling. You can also talk to your fiance about it. Anyway, good luck because I'm thinking of you.

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