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Jan 25, 2010
 Caroline:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have indeed turned pain into power by ensuring that your students are informed, and by encouraging them to tell. And I am delighted the way things ultimately worked out for you. There is one thing I would like to say...you wrote that you were "foolish" for not telling. You weren't foolish; you were a scared and vulnerable child and you had been manipulated and groomed over a long period of time. To consider yourself foolish is to put adult values on being a child. I doubt that you would call one of your students foolish for the same situation, so please don't call yourself that. Thank you for sharing your story and your all-important message with my visitors and me. And keep up the great work you are doing with your students. I commend and applaud your commitment to their safety.

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Jan 26, 2010
 What a real true success story
by: maurice

Oh Carloine 1. I am certain Darlene felt real proud of herself and you while reading your success story. From Victim to Victory. Oh you are one very special woman/teacher of the young. I have journeyed with young people for obver forty years and I can identify the powerful teacher you are to your students. They sure a blessed to have such an honest, open minded teacher with a mothers heart, a womans heart, re-assuring them to tell if anything is happening them that they don't feel easy about. I know many teachers, one of my best friends is a teacher similiar to your wonderful and good self. When your students know they can confide and trust you with their life stories in total confidence they are blessed for life. They are safe for life. Knowing that Darlene can identify with your story in her own special understanding her words to you are truly from her huge heart. God Bless you both for giving HOPE to children and teenagers of abuse to tell, to talk, to trust, to know there is real help out there for them. That there is life after being abused. Though miles apart, your story Caroline 1 ie most empowering. Thank you.
Jan 26, 2010
 safe place to tell
by: Scott Canada

Hi Caroline.
Reading your story left me feeling both happy and sad. I feel sad for what was done to you as a child. I feel happy that you now provide a safe place for your students to tell.
Speaking from experience I can safely say that being subjected to abuse for a long enough period(in my case years)can cause them to normalize the abuse. I thought that what was going on in my fathers house was normal until my friend asked me one day what was wrong with him. My home life made no sense. Constantly being called dummy, stupid and useless, physical abuse = madness!
I guess I didnt see it any longer. It was just normal. Perhaps this is what happened to you. The nudity became normal and being punished into submission left you unable to reason with this person.
School should be a safe place to tell. You are such good soul for giving that opportunity to kids today. Thank you!! School wasn't a safe place for me as a child though. I was actually abused/spanked in school and had no one at home to tell that cared. This led to more, and more severe and humiliating treatment to go on. It just escalated. Being a teacher you might find it interesting to read what was taking place in elementary schools in Canada in the 60-70. I encourage you to read of my experiences and also read the comments left by Darlene.

I have so much missing memory from then. I find it interesting that today I cant do my multiplication tables. I dont know if I knew them and lost them or never ever learned them. Maybe she was the one trying to teach it to me. Scary thought.
For some of us back then schools were not a safe place. I'm glad your one of the good ones. I'm glad your a teacher with insite, a person with a soul. The kids need you. Make a difference.

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