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Dec 29, 2009
Carmen:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Tell someone! You need help with this. Your father is a child molester, and is likely molesting other girls. He won't stop until he is made to stop. You don't want that on your shoulders. As for your body betraying you...that's not unusual. Just don't blame yourself for what happened. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Dec 30, 2009
Oh please rid the world of this vicious molester
by: maurice

Carmen 2. Darlene as always is your real and true help as to what you should do. In her comment she put before you honesty of what your horrible father did to you. Don't blame yourself, get a friend or two whom you can really trust. That may not be easy right now but you will. I know trusting someone after being abused is the hardest thing for any of us. But there is genuine caring, respecting people around you whom you can trust and tell. Your Father was (is) a molester of young girls. please stop him by telling on him to the authorities. I will never understand why the father of his innocent child would carry out such abuse. You are a big girl now, very sure that it was not right what he did to you on that night and for the next few years. Don't blame yourself that it seemed good at the time and your tiny body was okay with it even though you wanted him to stop. You can't go on the only if's and why's like if your cousin was with you etc. It did not happen so you will never know. your body was molested by a supposeingly caring Father who told you he was holding something one beautiful. only to abuse you. Always believe in yourself. I am beautiful, I'll make sure no one else abuses my beautiful body. You are worth all the love and respect and your dignity now that you know That your Father did horrible things to you. Please be good to yourself. Today as we begin a New year promise you will make new beginnings just for you. Get that special person in your life called friend who will be there for you. This friend is outside your normal boy/girl friendships even when things don't work out there for you this FRIEND will be there for you. Talk to a counsellor era go on it will be the best start to 2010 for you.

Dec 31, 2009
not your fault
by: Anonymous

i think you should know that what happened to you was just as bad as any other situation of sexual abuse especially since it was repeated. it can be confusing because it wasn't violent or aggresive. but its still abuse. My situation was similar, for years i told myself to stop making such a big deal about it because its nothing compared to what some people go through, but thats not true. in some ways the slow manipulative encounters make the victims feel more ashamed. your body responded because that was natural. and you had no control over it, the shame belongs with him. he had no right to do that, and he betrayed your trust as a daughter. let him have all the shame and guilt, because it's his.

Jan 05, 2010
Child molesters don't just stop
by: Mike

I'm happy that your father has stopped molesting you, but as Darlene said:
"Your father is a child molester, and is likely molesting other girls. He won't stop until he is made to stop."

He may not be molesting other girls yet, but he will. They start with someone close to them because they are the easiest ones to keep quiet, but they do move on to others after. He may have stopped molesting you because he thought you were getting too old for him, or he was afraid if he kept going, you might tell someone, but somewhere, someday, he WILL find another young girl to "take under his wings".

One of the most common reasons for not reporting a father or even step-father is because the victim still loves that person and doesn't want to be the cause of getting that person locked up, but if you love your father, that's even more reason to tell. He is sick and needs help and won't get it until the law finds out what he did.

Protect future victims and get your father the help he needs. Report him.

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