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Jun 18, 2011
Carmen:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

There is a innate need in children to have the love of their mothers, and therefore, children will reach out to their mothers for a very long time, even when severe abuse is present. Don't beat yourself up for that. You wanted what every child wants: a mother who loves her. "Want" and "love" your Self every bit as much as you would love and want the others who were rejected and had to endure what you've endured, Carmen. Give your Self what you never got from your mother and stepfather. Create the opportunities that were not afforded you as a child. As a child you had no power; as an adult you have that power. Take back the power they stole from you. Please consider some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the effects of coming from such an abusive environment, and for the betrayal and abandonment you feel from your mother. You didn't deserve to be mistreated. You do deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 19, 2011
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Carmen, I can't believe that your "mom" would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick monster of a man and allow him to beat and berate you 24/7...how dare she! Shame on her for running away from you all the time instead of protecting you from that sick brute! I am just as disgusted by her apathy towards you as well as her reaction towards you reaching out to her for help; I hate women who choose men over their own children because children should always come first. If that ignorant brute of a man didn't want to be there, then he should've had the courage to give you up for adoption instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that he and your uncaring mom chose was and still is inexcusable. You are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because, remember, abusers always choose to abuse. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. I really hope that you are in a safe place now and that you will try counselling.

Jun 19, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

Carmen L I believe you will make a new start in believeing the great, good, wonderful and beautiful young woman you truly are deep within yourself: Start by getting some form of counselling as Darlene knows you need to put all that happened to you into perspective: It works Carmen L so don't you be hurting yourself anymore You sure were abused, ill treated, by the very one's who should have loved and cherished you and helped you to live a childs life being properly educated: growing up with real friends, playing their games and enjoying a happty child/adolecent childhood: Selfish and sick parents who looked after themselves while neglecting you: A mother's love is forever no matter what happens even when the abuse and hurt their children: There is great nature in you Carmen L: You want to make sure no other child should suffer the abuse you did: You are good natured a great natural gift: You need to get some form of counselling so that you will be able to live your own life to the full: Be safe and protect yourself from any one who will not treat you you with dignity and respect: You are intelligent: Darlene has given you loving affirming words to work with: There from her womans heart to your's make sense of them and act on them: Then begin having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh yes Ms Carmen L get out and about being active and alive taking part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities with like-minded friends and fellow students: Stay in EDUCATION:
I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT:hug and cuddle that beautiful me looking out at you from the mirror: be gentle and kind to yourself like that body of yours and soothe it with nice oils and creams from time to time My motto:
I will I can: I must etc etc: I am WORTH it and I love me:

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