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Jan 31, 2011
Calleigh-May:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's natural for first-time expectant mother to be worried about whether or not she'll be a good mother and whether or not she'll bond with her baby. The fact that you're questioning it at all tells me that it's not likely that your worries will come to pass. Instead, you'll likely take steps to ensure the exact opposite will happen. Just remember that you are NOT your mother. Your thinking is not all muddled up as a result of drugs or alcohol. You'll be around for your child, unlike your mother was for you, and thus, you'll develop the connection with your child that you couldn't develop with your mother. And you'll do what you have to do in order to make sure your baby gets all the love s/he deserves. Reach out to some of your female friends, or perhaps some female family members to get some reassurance for yourself. And lean on your husband and his family. Perhaps your mother-in-law is someone you could also turn to. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Feb 04, 2011
I felt the same way...
by: AnonymousT

My mother & I never bonded, she was young & my grandmother cared for me.
When I had my child I was absolutely in love with her, I cared for her all day - we bonded as 2 people would.
When she got to about 9 is when I noticed a change. This is when my sister was born (when I was 9) & my mother pulled further from me, so it was weird that I pulled from my daughter when she hit 9. So I went to counseling & I have to strive to think about how SHE feels when I exhibit certain behavior.
It's ok to be fearful - this means you're aware. When we know better, we do better. If you're aware of how you feel, you're better equipped to make good decisions for your child. :o)

T

Feb 18, 2011
thank you
by: Calleigh-May

thank you very much for your support and comments, i went into labour on the 3rd of January and had a little boy called Harley-James, i must admit that when i first held him i was immediatly in love and i know that i will never let him go, my mother-in-law and husband are also smitten, i have a feeling things are going to get better now. xx

From Darlene - Webmaster: Congratulations, Calleigh-May! You've bonded with your baby boy, as I knew you would! May you and your beautiful son be filled with joy, and continue to experience the unconditional love between a mother and her child. All the best to you both.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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