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Oct 30, 2009
Yes, I DO hope telling your story here is a place to start your healing...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

C, while I thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, my first response to you is: You were 8 years old! My God, this wasn't your fault! You are putting mature values on things you did when you were barely out of diapers during a time when you weren't getting the attention you needed and deserved to get. And I'm not blaming your parents here; I'm offering you an explanation, a new message to tell yourself every time you feel shame, guilt, filthy, etc. This boy was a sex offender. He KNEW you were needy and vulnerable; and he took full advantage of that. Sex offenders are master manipulators and they know the signs to look for in their victims. You wouldn't blame an 8-year-old child of yours, so for goodness sake, stop blaming yourself! That blame is based on lies. Counselling may well help you come to terms with the lies you keep telling yourself.

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Nov 10, 2009
Read, Read and re-read. Then Always believe in yourself
by: maurice

My God this was not your fault, make an understanding of this for yoursefl C, pretty please. I am certain you know what is best for you now in your life. Darlene what a loving stepping stone for you to move on from in your life today. Read and re-read her comment to you. Take action on her empowering and loving words to you. I can. I will, I must, Just for ME. Think positive, Act positive, Be positive in all you do and say about yourself from this day on. Build up fro yourself a Mirror image that you will be proud of. by doing so you will be building up a high self esteem of your wonderful and beautiful self. Now always believe in yourself. Get real people around you who will assist you, like a counsellor, a real friend who will love and hug you for who you really are TODAY.

Nov 28, 2009
You are not broken
by: BMW Princess

You are not broken. That sick SOB was broken It's never your fault. Have you considered counselling?

Dec 31, 2009
Thank-you
by: C

Thank-you for the kind comments everyone. I feel better having written down my feelings on your website. It hurts so much sometimes, it's taken me a long time to be ready to respond. I'm going to go speak to someone...I just want the pain to go away...

May 03, 2010
nervous
by: C

The girl who 'told on me' has tried to contact me...I haven't spoken to her since this incident - that was more than 15 years ago...I'm feeling very nervous - I had no contact with her and did not know she lived anywhere nearby - My family moved sometime after this incident (I was 12)- I started over and left the past in the past - I cut many people out of my life to avoid anyone knowing about this...I'm now finding this girl's recently become connected to people I now know - I'm feeling very out of control...her message was very friendly...I don't know what I'll do about it - just wanted to write this down - having trouble sleeping...

May 03, 2010
My hearfelt feelings are still there for you
by: maurice

Hi wonderful an true human being behind your anonyminty: I hope you went and spoke with a counsellor or a true friend in December and that you are now in a better and safer place in yourself: Stay safe, Be safe. you deserve the best. You deserve to be loved: Please LOVE yourself C' I will, I can, I must, because I am WORTH it.

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