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Aug 03, 2010
Bruce:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I hope you continue to find healing and recovery for yourself. You certainly deserve it. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Aug 03, 2010
There is a lock on the inside of that gate, too.
by: eva1

Bruce, just surviving what you have survived proves that there is great strength in you. You have been rescued from your prison before, by somebody else, and saw what it was like to be outside, in the sun. However damaged your soul is, at least you know what you wish for in life, and that can show you at least the direction, if not the path to recovery. The love you crave from others is within you. Learn to love yourself first. It is hard at start, because shame and guilt, that your family had planted in you for their own reasons, are loud and dominant. It is so hard, you might want to use some help from a therapist. But it gets easier everytime you try! You are well worth to love yourself!
Only then the love you receive from others won't feel so undeserved and misled.

Aug 07, 2010
Learn to love yourself
by: Anonymous

I like what eva1 said: there's a lock inside the gate too. No one can find the key to that lock but YOU. And as the last comment said you have learn to love yourself first no one can do that for you.
I understand what it's like not to like yourself and look for someone to do what only you can do. I remember my child-like thinking looking for someone to love like my parents never did and help me heal myself. And you know what, when I used to hear someone say 'you have to help youself' or 'God helps those who help themselves', it made me feel that they didn't understand. But it was me who didn't understand I was looking for someone to take care of me and raise me the way my parents should have. After being angry for a while, I realized they were right. But before I could love myself, I had to learn I deserved to take care of myself. After overcaring for others (codependence), I had to figure out how to take time out for myself w/o feeling guilty. After a while, I successfully was able to do this, but I still didn't love myself.
I still thought I was worthless. The way this showed itself was through the people I chose in relationships-all were abusive or extremely codependent. Once I really started to work on present abuse, then I was able to begin to fully love myself.
And once I found the key to realizing I deserved love, I stopped accepting abusive behavior from those around me. Truly loving yourself is finding the key to the prison you have yourself in. In this rambling, I hope you can find the key to the prison that has you bound. I know you can do it!

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