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Feb 25, 2013
Brenda:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Even those who get what most would consider "justice", there is never enough justice doled out. And it's not uncommon for family, even other victims in the family, to take the side of the abuser/pedophile. There are many schools of thought about why this happens, but this is not the place to delve into that. What is important, Brenda, is that no matter what the outcome, no matter the situation, you get to chose how you are going to respond. Ask yourself this question: "Do I want more of this in my life?" And if the answer is "no", then start by changing what you think. What happened cannot be changed. The only thing you can change is what you think. I realized many years ago that if I continued to relive all that happened to me, and if I continued to lament over how everyone who was involved allowed it to go on, and if I continued to despair over how things turned out, then I would be the one living in prison. I chose to live another way. Find the positive in your life, no matter how small those positives might be. Live your life with the intent of finding the joy all around you. One positive about no longer being embraced by your family is that you are not constantly being reminded of what they did to you. Find the positive in everything.

You are worthy of and deserve happiness and joy in your life, Laney. Reach for that. It's in your power to choose that. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Feb 27, 2013
Brenda,
by: AnonymousT

It's so common for the abused to side with the abuser. I guess it's shame? Your brother was scared of the unknown...small town, abused male...I don't know. I'm sorry for your pain, and for his too. All the children your stepfather hurt.

I'm sure you've heard it before but....you're better off without their toxicity. You did what was right. You may have been punished by family, but think of how much that young man and your friend gained just by being heard. And you too. The legal system believed you and that says something.

Keep your head high. You cannot save everyone, but you did a wonderful job at saving who you could. That is pure bravery.

T

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