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Sep 11, 2009
"Taking the torch"...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Brad, if "taking the torch" means you're moving on with your own life in a positive and productive way, that makes you an inspiration, especially after all you've been through. Thank you for sharing even just a part of your story with my visitors and me.

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Sep 11, 2009
Your family is out of control...especially your mother and brother
by: Anonymous

Brad, your family is wrong. You are not a failure; you are a success; your family has lots of problems and they need help...but you need help, too. Have you all tried counselling? You didn't let anyone down, let alone your parents; the entire system has literally failed you on all costs. I can relate; everybody who knows my parents and brother has always loved them. They did not even know how my "family" was and how they treated me. Be brave, Brad, and stay strong.

Sep 12, 2009
You're aware, Be Brave, be strong just for you now
by: maurice

Brad P, great you worked hard got your grades against all the odd's but you achieved them. Good on you. Always believe in yoursefl. As you get older make that real for you. I am the most important, I'm special, I'm unique. continue receiving all the help professional and from your friends that will allow you to live your life to the full NOW. You sure were abused, the pain and it's effects will heal with time, only you can help that healing. As Darlene makes you aware that taking the torch means you are in control of your future destiny. Bard P your older brother was a bully even from that early age of mauling you. He got away with it then and in the future yeasr. Sadly a number of parents never saw it as bullying but just a form of horse play between siblings. Yet he knew what he was doing to you. All he did was unestimate you, making you feel the weaker and the vunerable. All bullies are like that while sadly ruining the lives of their victims. Your Mother/Father so called parents were no help to you and sadly abused you too. Controlling you rather than loving you. We were all ever so innocent as children,teenagerss. young adults that we accepted what they did to us as being good and right while all the time they were abusing our innocent/nieve/vunerable stae of minds. Oh Brad the bit of eduaction is now standing to you. You'll be fine. LOve yourself, value yourself, build up your self-esteem. Always believe in yourself. Love yourself, don't dwell too long on the negative of the memories that your abuse years will bring from time to time. Let go with the help of a counsellor/therapist and you trusted and true friends. I can do it, I will do it, I must do it. Look in the mirror say and think positive things about yourself, Act always in a positive way, Be positive in all you do each day you rise from your bed. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body, be involved with others in sports or some helpful pursuits that help others as well as your self. Thinking and doing for others can at times can put in perspective all that happened to me/you. Hold that Torch high light the flame to burn brightly for you in your life.

Sep 17, 2009
Very not-so-quick add on
by: Brad P

Just to update two things:

1) THANKFULLY, I realized I wasn't homicidal during that meltdown of meltdowns. The "what if" thoughts of homicide were simply a way of talking myself into further belief of my own self worthlessness. Though I hate to validate what might have been my own suicide, I'd much rather have had myself go down alone than take others with me. This is NOT an endorsement for anyone to take their own life, I'm speaking strictly within this specific circumstance.

2) I've realized where the 90% or so of mysterious pain has come from. Investigating the stories of others, as they pertain to my own past, I've realized that both my parents were full blown poisonous narcissists, each in their own way, but finally all the once little things are adding up to the big picture. In a way, it was almost like being shipped back and forth between two separate cults, and I was brainwashed into separate extensions of each parent's will. This is what caused the meltdown of meltdowns when both fully dragged me into their battle, and only now can I appreciate the extremity of the pressure I was under. Finally, I can understand what went wrong and where, and I can do something about the damage. Narcissistic abuse is EXTREMELY serious, especially coming from one or both parents. Despite all this, I'm actually doing well finally, and I feel like I have a budding identity for the first time since I was about three years old.

Anyways, all the outpouring is greatly appreciated, and once again, thanks all!

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