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Feb 03, 2010
Bobbi:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You do indeed have such courage. To have told when you were so afraid was so brave. You've endured so much from so many horrible people. I'm so glad you've found a way to heal, and that you now have a healthy, loving and supportive relationship. Thank you for sharing your story and your message with my visitors and me. You are an inspiration.

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Feb 04, 2010
I need to to acknowledge I have overcome being abused
by: maurice

Bobbi, always believe in yourself, always believe you are the winner over your abusive father and others. If you feel the need to talk to a counsellor, do, your friend and children will support you now. Your children are your lifeline to reality and what rearing a child is all about. Your father certainly did not. He used you and abused you badly, shamefully, It was not my fault please keep saying. I was innocent and vunerable he knew that. Please truly love the wonderful and beautiful you that you have become. Build up your self esteem. look in the mirror and see a very strong me in it. I am going to be so for my children and my friend (s)I can, I will, I must because I worth it. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body so you can encourage your children to have likewise. Heed darlene's comment she know best.

Feb 26, 2010
The rest of the story
by: Bobbi

I don't know if it was a subconsious thing before or what but I left out all the abuse by women in my life.

I'm not sure of the age, 4 or 5 I guess my Aunt who is nine years older than me messed with me. I don't remember much, only being taught how to french kiss. For years I thought it wsa just a dream I remembered all too well. Until one day my mother mentioned that she did something to me because she had been accussed of messing with another child. I was shocked to realize this faint memory was true.

When I was in the foster home where the foster brother messed with me the sister that I hung out with the most made out with me on a couple of occassions I guess because of the way she went about it I had chosen not to see it as abuse.

Because of these incidents I was scared for years that I was secretly homosexual. It wasn't until I was old enough to reaize what sexuality is that I understood just how messed up I was in my head from these things.

My mother who always protected me from the sexual abusers and many of the physical abusers as well was abusive in her own right. Once she slammed my head into the wall for swearing at my dad. Other times her abuse was allowing my dad to do things like kicking me out and what not that he did. But most of all she was verbally abusive. I can't tell you how many times she would scrinch her face up and call me a Bitch. Or whatever horrible degrading name came to her head.

Unfortuneately she is the one abuser I can't bring myself to get rid of. She currently lives only a couple of blocks away, she treats my children rather well, and feels that she did nothing wrong. We got into an arguement recently in which I became enraged enough to tell her she didn't deserve to have me in her life. Later in the fight she told me she would hunt me down like the dog that I am. I was vey tempted to run out of town family in tow and never see her again. I know the things she calls me are not who I am but when I look at my own children I don't understand how she can want to degrade me like that. She thinks that what she does isn't all that bad because her mother did worse. I pray every day that she realizes what she did was wrong and comes to a true relationship with the Lord.

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