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Nov 24, 2009
 Confrontations with your mother will unlikely yield what you need from her...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Blair, I just wrote a comment to another contributor about confrontations, pointing her toward a comment I made some time ago. You'll find it on this site at: How do I deal with family members who abused me and my siblings? Another to check out on this site is at: Exchange with Jane. Your mother is only deluded herself; and even then, deep down she likely knows perfectly well that she has harmed you. Knowing that she came from abuse herself can be helpful, but only if you use it for understanding and not to stop yourself from dealing with your own turmoil. When you say that her past doesn't offer an excuse, you tell me that you do understand that. At eighteen, I too felt as you do. At twenty-four, the repercussions had taken such a strong hold that I needed professional help, again. Yes, you've seen a therapist already, just don't deny yourself that help if and when you find the need once again. Getting that kind of help in my twenties saved me. Perhaps that kind of help can save you too. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Nov 24, 2009
 Your mother is out of control
by: Anonymous

Blair, your mother is wrong. You are not fat nor stupid; you are beautiful, smart and worthy of love and respect. Your mother has lots of problems and she really needs help (in fact, even one trip to anger management class isn't enough). But you need help, too, so the sooner you tell, the better. Please tell someone.
Nov 25, 2009
 Now is the time to build up your own Self Esteem
by: maurice

Blair1 stay with your therapist, get out of the house and mix with your class mates, wirh your frinds, get involved with sporting or cultural groups. mixing with people who value you for who you are will benefit you no end. you will observe Hi I am a normal human being, special, with my own giftedness to share with others. Blair you are aware now your mother needs a therapist too. Darlene as always has given you food for thought on how to move on. Heed her words to you. find ways of taking action and moving on in your life. I am almost certain you have one, maybe two people in your life that you trust with your life and know your situation through the years. walk with them, let them be your inner strength to build up your SELF ESTEEM and self worth. Value that beautiful Body of yours. Look in that Mirror and say all the good things you can find to say about it. Having a healthy mind in a healthy body is what you need to aim for NOW. At 18 say I can, I will, I must just for me. Hug that body in the privacy of your room in front of the mirror saying I'M Special and I love me. You'll feel good. It ain't a silly thing to be asked to do. Love yourself. Acknowledge your mother apologising but tell her until you feel she really means it you won't accept it. She hurt you, she abused you, she put you down and did not acknowledge your dignity as her beautful child.

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