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Mar 14, 2009
Isolation is a MAJOR red flag!
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Bianca, first I want to congratulate you on no longer cutting; that is a huge step forward. While I understand why you did cut, self-harm is like saying to yourself that your abuser wins, that he continues to have power and control over you and your actions. When you stopped, you in essence said, "You "FB" will not control me anymore. You don't have power over me anymore." Not only is this a step in self-love; it is also the start of a new way of thinking for yourself. And you deserve that, Bianca. You DON'T deserve what you are dealing with.

It sounds as though "BF" has purposely isolated you and your family in order to have free rein. By isolating you all, he is not under the watchful eyes of society. This is very dangerous, especially given his violent behaviour. The first thing abusers do is to isolate their victims. The second is to convince them they are worthless and nothing without them (the abuser). Nothing could be further from the truth; I hope you know that. You ARE worthy. You ARE deserving of love and dignity and respect.

I do not believe any of you are safe in that house. Please tell someone what is happening to you and the others in your family; perhaps a trusted teacher or counsellor at school. I urge you to contact the Australian Kids Help Line at 1800 55 1800. KHL have counsellors who will listen to you and discuss your options. The service is available 24 hours a day for children, youth and young adults between the ages of 5 ? 25. Their counselling services are free, confidential, and you can remain anonymous. While I can tell you are a very strong and caring, loving person, Bianca, you can't do this alone. Check out the website, and call them, from school if you have to, just call them. You, your sisters and your mam deserve better than to be mistreated.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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