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Feb 08, 2012
Bethany:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You've given reasons not to tell, but all of them exclude two things: One, you. Two, other victims of this pedophile. You assume you're the only victim of this sick pervert; that's highly unlikely. You don't know what you don't know. But even if you are the only victim, you do not realize how this will impact you going forward in your life. The longer you keep this secret, the more you tell your Self that you're not worthy of dignity and respect, and that you don't matter. But you DO matter and you ARE worthy of dignity and respect. You are not responsible for the way your family responds. And you don't know how they'll respond. You're so worried about how this will affect your mother that you don't realize how she'll respond later in life when she discovers you didn't trust her enough to tell. She'll question how she raised you. She'll question why it is that her own daughter couldn't be honest wit her. And don't be so sure that she won't ever find out. Your stepbrother WILL, if he hasn't already, figure it out. Such "secrets" have a way of coming out eventually. Not only is "3 years" too long, another day is too long to wait. I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the sexual abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Don't sell your Self short, Bethany. You deserve so much better. Call the number. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Feb 09, 2012
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
by: Anonymous

You must leave that home! It is not healthy for you! This abuse will get worse the longer that you stay and the poison! Pray to God to help you get through!God does not want you to be at a place that it is not safe for you! God did not want Mary and Joseph to be at bad place if baby Jesus was going to get hurt!

Feb 16, 2012
Bethany
by: Anonymous

Bethany I understand where you are coming from not wanting to hurt your family, I've been there I was abused by my step grandfather and prior to that my nana had been in an abusive relationship.

Like you I was scared to admit what had happened and how it would effect the people I love the most. I was scared that they wouldn't believe me. I even managed to convince myself I had dreamed it for a while. I convinced myself that if he was hurting me he wasn't doing it to anyone else.

I convinced myself I was doing the right thing by my family by keeping it quiet. after all he had stopped abusing me what could the harm be. I only had pretend everything was normal every time I saw him.

But it did matter, when I finally told it had a bigger impact as my family felt guilty they didn't know and help sooner. It also had an impact on the self harming behaviour, eating disorder and depression I developed as a result of the abuse.

Not only that when I did tell I found out I wasn't the only one of his step grandchildren he had abused. And that there were other children who had been my friends who also fell victim.

I understand moving and leaving friends and pets behind is very difficult. And the new city and house is strange and unfamiliar but if you give it a chance you might find you like it.



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