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Mar 20, 2010
Becki:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm so glad that you are now in a safe place, and that you realize that none of what happened to you was your fault. I do hope you are in some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the effects of growing up in such a terrible environment. As for your mother, perhaps you and she will be able to develop more of a relationship over time. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 23, 2010
Thanks Be To God ....You are safe now
by: maurice

Becki I thank God you are safe now. Sorry you miss your Mommy being around who you loved and wo did not hurt you. You are so brave, to search for and find Darlene's site: Telling your story I am certain will help many teenagers to tell about their abuse. Your story gives them hope: Stay safe, stay strong, Always believe in yourself. Please value and respect your own dignity, your sexuality, your own personal growth. You know what abuse is all about so don't ever let anyone abuse you again. Tell on them. Now you are in a safe place please have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Live a normal teenagers life to the full. Trust yourself. You are highly intelligent, stick with your eduaction. Be part with your class mates in sporting and cultural activites; There is safety in numbers. being part of team sports gives one a healthy attidude to the beautiful, gifted, tallented, good, great Teen that you are. I'm Special: I love me: I can: I will: I must: oh yes Becki say because I am worth it. You have a lovely caring nature especially in the way you protected your younger sibling from that beast of a Father. That is a lovely nature to know you have. Ok. off your bottom, read Darlene's comment as it is so personal from her heart to you. A womans heart Becki, She has the honour of being known as The Realationship Lady. She gives hope to all her visitors because she has proved there is life after abuse.

Mar 23, 2010
england, cabbages and roses for help
by: Anonymous

First I think you should be proud of yourself for Protecting your other siblings. And that alone is where you know in your heart, that you
are strong. And you dont have to have relive that nightmare. Its your life now , to live.
Period. As far as drinking or not drinking , that has nothing to do with it, those are excuses that are used to avoid laws to put blame on innocent , maybe not perfect as your mum, but
the fact that along with laws not provided with domestic violence laws they failed you in helping you , your mum the scapegoat, sadly
otherwise they because of the laws wouldnt have been able to help you get out of that system and that family who hurt you , the entire family pays
instead of the one who hurt you.
I bet your mum love s and misses you too

At your age you have the right to make decisions about your family. and you can do counseling
your way, alot of ways, there are things i had wanted to do with my family they didnt want to do , liz clairborne , love doesnt hurt
mark products does a domestic violence program with selling makeup , lauren from the hills sponsors it. since you are a guardian angel in your family , you could lead a group and do this to help heal by helping others and yourself at same time, in england cabbages and roses they maybe also help arrange a fundraisor in your name , they do tee shirts for cancer and all
maybe they do one for you to raise awareness and laws and help others. As far as weekend with your father, i understand, i had trouble with my child trying to protect her and i ended up going to the beach to live a new life, with her , the dad got counseling and went with us. we had a nice lifestyle there and happy he changed. in that case , Not everyone but some people can be helped. and some people change. with help
you sound like you are a wonderful person who will end up having the life meant to be for you , maybe not what you thought it would be but what it could be and better. Families split up in natural events anyway. you survived and now you have a brand new life and it s up to you what you do now with it. I have people i wish would help themselves as you did and are doing, in my family now, trying to help them thru
your age , not as mature and honest as you.
i keep you and your mum in my prayers , and i have been told that there are victims and there are survivors. you are a survivor remember that .


Mar 23, 2010
Greatful you're safe now.
by: Mac

Becki; Thank you for sharing your story with us.You're a precious young woman on the journey of hope, & recovery. Proud of you! Our bodies store traumas we experience. Getting past the emotional/ pain responce to them takes time. One of the big helps for me from nightmares,etc., was EMDR Thereapy with a counselor. The abuse I went tru, gave me PTSD, post trauma stress disorder. I could go from dissociation to hypervigilent in a New York minute at times. EMDR therapy helped me to work tru the stored traumas, process them, and put their memories into a different part of the brain were it could be stored without the emotional/pain responces attached to them.That way it wouldn't be as if they still had control over me, or make me relive those moments re-experienceing the pain, emotions,etc., that occured at the time they happened to me. That could be helpful to you in getting past the nightmares,etc. Don't give up! Be patient & loving towards yourself; you deserve it!

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