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Apr 14, 2010
Ashley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story and your very important message with my visitors and me. I couldn't agree more; emotional abuse does leave the longest lasting scars. I do hope you consider entering some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of growing up in such an abusive home. Always remember Thank you for sharing your story and your very important message with my visitors and me. I couldn't agree more; emotional abuse does leave the longest lasting scars. I do hope you consider entering some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of growing up in such an abusive home. Always remember that you are NOT the lies you grew up with. You are worthy of dignity and respect and you ARE lovable.

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Apr 15, 2010
Always believe in yourself:
by: Maurice

I remember when attending boarding school from 11 years of age to 18 that even though it was abuse I would preferred to be spanked or beaten in the bare bottom than be lectured to for an half hour or more. The bad man used to make me feeel so little in all he said to this day it still remains when I speak with anyone in Authority. I shut 99% of it out now but I agree with You Ashley 7 emotional abuse is lasting longer than physical abuse. Darlene has given you hope you can begin to let go by talking with a counsellor. I know that can be a huge support and help in letting go. You were unlucky to have parents who did not have a clue how to be so with two beautiful children. Your Father was wrong, a total ignoratnt ''''hole, uneducated in the whole area of loving and cherishing his two beautiful and lovely daughters. A poor mother who was incapable of making the effort to love and cherish her own flesh and blood. Ashley 7 I hope you have your sister and a friend or two to bring the best out in you and away from the effects of your emotional abuse. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: What is he asking me to do. Well Asley the motre you try to live your life naturally then you will erase the memories of that ignorant Father of yours. He was a control freak/idiot no good father to you and your sister. Now you are a young woman of 23 years of age. you can be active and alive with your Friends/workmates/class mates if you are still studying. Get off your Bottom and out and about playing team sports, mixing and intergrating with like-minded people who will keep your mind thinking positive and active on LIving the Now time of your life to the Full. So walk/jog/run play hockey--whatever is the main team sports around you there. Having fun and feeling free is one sure way to rid yourself of past hurts and the effects of abuse on you. Darlene has encouraged Counselling Ashley 7 with having a healthy mind in a healthy body you will live a good wholesome life. Think of others more tahn yourself what I mean don't sit around thinking negative. Build up your self-esteem and always believe in yourself. I CAN: I WILL: I MUST; BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT: You are aware now you are not the worthless or pitiful girl/teenager/young adult your Father made you out to be. You know that so proof to yourself He was a right fool, ignorant, stupid, and very unaware of his responsibilities of how to love and cherish his children. Darlene has proved there is life after Abuse, she is an example to us all she moved from being a victim to victory over her childhood abuse. So Ashley 7 you too can be a winner.

Apr 29, 2010
Thank you
by: Ashley7

Thank you Maurice for the very thoughtful comments. I am currently working on my masters in marriage and family therapy so my time is very occupied, thank you for the kind empowering words :-)

May 21, 2010
I feel bad for you
by: Anonymous

I feel so sorry for you and your sister. Who did you go to to tell you have been abused? I might know a girl that gets abused,and she is very scared to tell someone

from,Mercedes

May 21, 2010
Keep being there for her
by: Anonymous

Mercedes the truth is that me and my sister only talked about it among ourselves-we never really told anyone. The only thing that saved us was time. By this I mean that once we got older he stopped because he knew that we would then retaliate ourselves if he dared to try to abuse us in anyway, so he really preyed upon us when we were little. When I look back now I wish I would have told someone because if I did, I would probably be alot more healthier mentally then I am right now. The lasting effects from that going on so long seems unbearable at times and even when I think I am fine it seems to pop back up. Who ever your friend is, do all you can do to get her help. I do not know her age but if she is in school pls try to persuade her to go to a school authority that she trusts such as a counselor or anyone at all that she may trust-who knows, you may even be that one person yourself. The sooner it stops the better off she will be-Pls help her as much as you can. I hope this helps!

May 24, 2010
Ill try
by: Anonymous

Thank you for the advice i will try my best to get her some help. But, what if she doesn't want me to tell anyone? I'm just tying not to have go the rest of her life feeling the same way you do. I care a lot about her and will do anything to help her she's my best friend. what if i'm the only one she trusts. Ill try to get her some help and i will try to get her to come with me when i tell. Thank you it means a lot.

May 24, 2010
:-)
by: Anonymous

What you just told me is exactly what you should say to her if she does not want to tell. You are a really great friend-and I know that you will figure out what is the best thing to do, and it seems that you already have ;-)

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