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Mar 17, 2012
Ashley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What you are now experiencing with bottled up emotions, not wanting to be touched, difficulty making or keeping friends, likely a lack of trust, is very typical when dealing with effects of having been sexually abused. The fact that your own father sexually abused you, someone who was responsible for ensuring you were kept from harm doing the harm, can make the effects even more pronounced. The longer you keep the secret the longer you'll suffer the effects. It's keeping the secret that's now affecting you more than ever. Talk to your mother. If that's not comfortable for you at this point, considering speaking with a counsellor at school. If possible, seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with the betrayal and abandonment, and all the other related issues being sexually abused by your own father has brought. You didn't deserve to be abused, Ashley. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Don't keep it inside any longer. You're worth more than that...and that worthiness starts with you making the choice that you first deserve dignity and respect, and second, that you deserve to be relieved of the shame and guilt; shame and guilt that is not yours to carry. The shame, guilt and blame lies squarely on the shoulders of your abuser. He had all the power, and he misused that power. Take that power back. Reach out for the help you need. I send you love, light and healing energy, Ashley. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 17, 2012
its normal
by: misty

it is normal to feel the way that you do because i was sexual abuse by my father like you and bunch of other guys and i don't want to be touch a lot of time and i care about not having sex but i think you need to try to come clean with your mom and let her know what he did to you and let her help you through this process and i think you need to go to get proffessional counseling to help you deal with everything that you went through so when you are ready you can have a healthy relationship with a guy

Mar 18, 2012
FREEDOM
by: Rita M

Hi Ashley,
My heart right to you.It's a shame that a child has to be sexually abused especially a father.This certainly is not your fault.You are carrying the
shame and guilt for him.You are holding something
inside because you were threatened to do so.This
has caused you to become fearful.As a child we
depend our parents and we are to look up to them.
Your father knew you were vulnerable like any child and KNEW HE WAS WRONG.He didn't want to be
arrested and put all the blame on you.I am suggesting stongly that you go for therapy.I can relate with you and I carried the hurt for a long time.You are safe with your therapist because you are heardbelieved and understood.Boundries are
a very imporant thing they teach.Boundries are rules you have for procting yourself.Councelling
causes your honest feelings ou tof anger and how to solve it.AS your councelling proceeds you are letting all the abuse out and how it effected you.
You begin to have develope a sense of security in yourself along with confidence because you are ridding the story of abuse.You are not keeping it
inside anylonger.Coucellors are very open to what you have to say.There is no limit to hearing you.
That is what freedom means.When you develope a real sense of freedom because of your healing
you may be able to charge your father.Abuse is not
a secret and has no value to hold it in.It is a shame how epecially children are victoms.You need to take back the selt that he stole from you.Don't
ever forget that you are a All this freedom you deserve with joy and confedence.I am hoping that you can go to councelling s soon as you can because you don't have to carry the abuse anylonger.Your father should be confronted and haave all the shame put right back to him.I can't
express the importance of your freedom.You have shown that you have dignity by telling your story.
You seem like a very warm person.It's a shame that
children are hurt and are innocent.You deserve better treatment than that,because you are worth it.Life has so much to offer.God Bless
Rita M

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