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Jun 05, 2011
Ashley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's not just you; most victims DO believe they are the ones at fault. I'm delighted that you're learning that it wasn't your fault. Keep telling yourself that, because it's the truth. Fault lies solely on the shoulders of the offenders/abusers because they choose to offend or abuse. They had a choice; and they chose abuse. Always remember that, Ashley. And remember that you deserve to have a family that treats you with dignity and respect and with love. And that you deserve to treat your Self with dignity and respect, and to realize that you are not only lovable, but that you ARE loved. If you forget that, come back here and re-read my message to you. You ARE loved here, Ashley. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Jun 05, 2011
So many crimes committed
by: Anonymous

Ashley, your abusers are wrong. You are not a stupid "skank"; you are smart and articulate. You are not slutty; you are not a w****; you are a good, beautiful person. You were given a raw, crappy deal because your abusers were so twisted and screwed up in their own ways of thinking that they didn't even know how to take care of themselves; let alone be parents to you. They didn't know how to love even themselves; all they ever knew was hate; so they should've known better and loved and cherished you. Oh, and they are truly sadistic beasts too...and cowardly ones too, because only sadistic cowards would do such things to such an innocent, helpless little girl you once were. Oh, and as for your biological dad, I can't believe that he abandoned you to the so-called care of his equally sick monster of a wife and allow her and her slimy boyfriends to beat, offend and berate you everyday...how dare he! As for your so-called mom, shame on her for running away from you all the time and sadistically abusing and torturing you instead of protecting you from her slimy boyfriends! I am just as disgusted her her choice to let them offend you; children should always come first. The path that those sickos chose for themselves was and still is inexcusable. Oh, and mothers who abuse their own daughters are, in fact, one of the real abusers. Oh, and you are not to blame for their ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse, torture and offend you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you in one of the most vile ways. I really hope that you're in a safe place now and that you really tell someone you really trust (and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you), something's seriously wrong with them; second of all, you did nothing wrong; third of all, abusers do not stop abusing until they are forced to stop. I am thinking of you.

Jun 05, 2011
You are loved and worthy.
by: Anonymous

I second everything Darlene said. Sometimes it's extremely hard when the people around you, or the people who seem available, can't give you (enough) love. But that's when you have to work extra hard to love yourself. If you can love yourself, it shows you already have love. By coming here and sharing your story, you've sought out help, and that's a good show of love for yourself! I think despite everything, you already have a massive amount of love in yourself, just waiting to burst through. It'll be enough to pull you through and overcome what's been thrown at you. Best wishes, and keep believing in yourself!

Aug 01, 2011
how to help
by: Anonymous

I would love to help this child and many more on here. im a mom of two boys and cant have anymore children but i wish someday to adopt and by coming here to this site im hoping to help in some way. much love to u child so you will know people do care and are there for u it is NEVER your fault and you did NOTHING wrong..just have faith and believe in yourself and u can be whoever u want to be

From Darlene - Webmaster: Anonymous, you're a very caring person, and I can appreciate that you want to help the people on this site; thank you for your compassion. I do not however permit email addresses, phone numbers or other personal information to be shared on this site. This is to ensure that all visitors are kept safe here. Leaving positive encouraging and supportive comments like you did above is a perfect way to reach out to the story contributors here. Most don't reply back, but that is their right. Just know that by leaving a supportive comment, you're helping not only the person who wrote their story, but also others who read the story and comments. Thank you for your understanding.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Apr 16, 2012
Happend to me 2
by: Anonymous

That is messed up i was kinda like this too.

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