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Jan 28, 2008
How humiliating AND creepy...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother's shower peeping is really creepy. Although we don't know for sure if she got sexual gratification with her peeping, I have to ask what other motives would she have, except as that OF a voyeur. Very disturbing that she was a voyeur WITH HER OWN CHILDREN! And the fact that she did this to you and your older brother, chances are she also did this to your other brothers.

And proclaiming to others that you had "pubes"... how utterly humiliating for you as a 10-year-old. What was she THINKING!

I'm not surprised that your mother denies that any of this happened; I don't know too many offenders who would readily admit to offending. And yes, women can be offenders, including women who are mothers.

As for the beatings doled out by your father, WHILE YOUR MOTHER HELD YOU DOWN, very troubling and betraying. I understand all too well why you would now, as an adult, be dealing with depression, fear and anxiety.

There is hope, Ashley. You don't have to continue to live this way, but you need help to sort out the emotional trauma. I urge you to get some form of counselling to help you with that emotional trauma. You really are worth it.

Oh, and I wouldn't bother trying to get your parents to discuss what happened to you as a child. They will likely continue to deny or disregard what you say. That is the nature of abusers. There are two pages on my site that deal with this issue, Ashley: Confrontation with my abusers from Shannon2, and Exchange with Jane, what abusers and survivors need to know. Both pages offer insight into the mind-set of the abuser that I believe you'll find helpful.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 28, 2008
How Mean!
by: Francine

You didn't deserve parents who treat you with such anger and hostility! You deserved parents who treat you with love and kindness. They should've loved you, nurtured you, and even protectedyou from harm. Unfortunately, you've got a crappy, raw deal, Ashley, and here's why: Your parents had a lot of choices, and, yup, they made only the wrong ones, indeed! As for your mother, the way she looked at you and your brother taking a shower (separately, of course) is so disgusting and perverted! No wonder why she chose her own perversion over you and your brother, her own children! You might want to try counselling, and then call the police, Ashley, cuz you're worth the help.

Jan 28, 2008
cruel parents
by: fifi

your parents should be ashamed.i hope u have found the lord

Jan 29, 2008
Im Charlee En Im Sorry For Yuu =[
by: Charlee

Omg Ur Mum Is A Perv!! Im So Sorry =[[ x

Jan 29, 2008
Reply
by: Anonymous

Sorry you went through all this terrible experiences. Parents shouldn't be looking and hitting young children, it's against the law.Even though your parent are deny what they did to you and not talking about it either.Nothing can't be done. The only thing I got to say is moved on with your life. Forget about the persons that did this to you,start living your life and make the best of it.One thing that would definitely work for you is seeing somebody to talked to on a daily basic. I understand it's hard right now but talked to a professor therapy. Everything going to be okay. God Bless You and Pray for the Best.

Jan 29, 2008
"Not Your Fault, Ashley"
by: Linda

I think you have a very disturbed mother, and an idiot father. Don't take offense, because I had parents worse than that. My mother had mental problems, Bipolar Disorder, and she was prone to violent episodes. My father was afraid of her and let the abuse go on. I was molested by my uncle when I was nine years old and today I am diagnosed as a sexual addict. To have a normal relationship with a man is uncomprehensible to me. I have been with fifty-three men in my adult life ans still haven't found what I'm looking for. Hang in there.

Mar 09, 2008
I'm sorry
by: Sienna

I can't even imagine the effect this must have had on you, especially at such a young age. I know it doesn't mean much but I feel for you. Hang in there, and don't be ashamed to talk about it. You have a lot to complain about.

Mar 10, 2008
omg!
by: Anonymous

i feel bad 4 u! i have one question... have u told the police about your childhood? if so.. where are ur parents? i hope their in jail! no offence. i hope you recover ok and i think that you have alot of personality to make it if you already haven't which i hope u have.
GOOD LUCK!

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