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Jul 01, 2009
I applaud your strength...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Asha, you are a very strong woman. You most certainly are the epitome of what a survivor is. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I'm sure it will inspire others who have been through something similar; inspire them to realize that there can be life, a good life, after abuse. And just for the record, it did not surprise me that your father molested others. It would have surprised me if he hadn't, because sex offenders do not change their ways. Again, thank you for sharing, Asha.

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Jul 01, 2009
empowering words of real courage in overcoming your abuse
by: maurice

Asha, Darlene as is her nature gave you the highest of praise for being a good and great woman. Inner strength was with you as you did the brave and right thing TELL. Hail fellow well met people with others are living a hidden and false life as your Father was. On the surface ever so nice but a cruel and sinister human being inside. You save alot of other beautiful children/teenagers young women from the hand of your Father. Good for you and for them. You sure proved to darlene and her many visitors there is a good and full life to be lived after abuse. Thank You. Live well, Laugh alot, LOVE much, especially yourself and that wonderful husband of yours and your family. You sure are an inspiration to each one of us who were abused.

Jul 10, 2009
Good on you!
by: Rhianna

Hi Asha,

Good on you for creating a new family and a new life for yourself, away from the horrors of the past. I hope that you and your family will be very happy. It's good that your husband sounds supportive, as this can make a lot of difference. You remind me of a beautiful Phoenix rising up from the ashes!

I think that there are some important things to be learnt from your story and that of many others in similar situations.

When we speak out about abuse within the family, family members and others often react in negative ways by not believing, not being supportive, blaming us the victims and protecting the abusers. They often choose to look the other way, deny and do not want to hear.

Your family members and parents failed you miserably. You were singled out by your father, manipulated and abused. He knew that he could get away with it by grinding you down, making you weak and reducing your self-esteem. He also turned others against you by denying his actions and blaming you. What a pitiful excuse for a human being, let alone a man! I join you in hoping that justice will one day be done!

Sadly, authorities often mirror the denial, victim-blaming and abuser-protecting and pitying of our family members and others. Why on earth was your father allowed to return to the family home and your family allowed to bully you into silence and denial? Could the authorities not see that this would most likely happen. Could they not see that the abuse would continue!? How ignorant are the "experts" who are supposed to be protecting and supporting us!

I hope that your story will serve as inspiration for fellow surivors and a reality check for others. Thank you for sharing.

More Power to you and your family Asha!!!
Good on you!

May 17, 2011
Glad you have moved on with life
by: Anonymous

I am happy you were able to move forward with life. but one thing I hope you can do is encourage all kids, especially pakistani kids to come forward. This kind of awful experience you had happens in thousands upon thousands of pakistani households. I say this because I hear so many stories from adults who had this happen to them as kids. Harboring terrorists and abusing kids is way too common amongst pakis. Please, paki kids especially, speak up and tell trustworthy people when your parents are doing something wrong. If you are not sure whether it is right or wrong, please ask because if you have any doubt, something is likely wrong.

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