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Feb 10, 2012
To Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Not all counsellors or therapist are created equally. Some are better than others, and some are more appropriate than others given the needs of the client or patient. And counselling is a process, one that requires a great deal of effort on the part of the client. It's not a magic pill where suddenly afterwards everything is normal again, where suddenly you'll forget everything that happened to you. Counselling takes work. It takes a commitment to the process, each and every session. It's about honesty and sharing of the deepest and innermost secrets, fears, and emotions. Only then can true healing begin, because only then will all the fears and emotions let you go. If you hold back anything, you're holding back on your healing and recovery. As for your boyfriend, he's obviously not sensitive to your needs. Talk to him again about those needs. If he still doesn't respect that, then you'll have to make a decision. Don't get wrapped up in the "but I love him" mindset. This is about YOU and your needs, not his. It's about your self-respect and not settling for someone who really doesn't get it. You do need more counselling or therapy, and I hope you do seek it out. Go into each session with a full commitment to honesty about everything without fear (remember, the abuse is now over with, except in your mind) and with the idea that you can learn the tools necessary in order to deal with the issues that arise whenever they come up. There can and will be setbacks, which is why you need those tools. A good counsellor or therapist will help you with those tools. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


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