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Jan 16, 2011
To Anonymous B:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I hope you've told someone what your cousin did to you. You see, sex offenders do not change their ways until they are made to stop. Chances are he stopped when you were 13 because you became too old for his liking, disgusting as that sounds. Unless he's been made to stop, it is highly likely that your cousin is still abusing young boys. But besides that, you need help to deal with the repercussions of that abuse. Please talk to someone, and consider some form of counseling. A counselor may be able to help you sort out your sexuality, as well help you determine how your "preferences" surfaced. It is very possible that the sexual abuse influenced or impacted you in that way. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 16, 2011
the process of my healing
by: Anonymous

Hi there,
I can very much relate to your situation, I was abused as well and in simmilar ways. In fact, sometimes i ask myself the same question about sexuality, I wonder sometimes if maybe I could have feelings for woman, eventhough I am married to an amazing man. However, there is one thing that I can tell you. It is that my faith in Jesus Christ saved me. when I was 14 I prayed to God, because the pain was so great that I couldn't handle it any more, that prayer gave me so much relieve that after I feel like a total different person. He made me understand that It was not my fault, and that I had to forgive that person in order to be free. I dont know what your faith is or if you have one, But I can tell you that what saved me was God. Now, i have a close relation ship with God and through his word I now understand his plans for my life. God bless you and may He Heal your heart. thanks for sharing

Jan 17, 2011
it is normal
by: Tim L.

I'm sorry you were violated by your cousin. It is normal, though, to have feelings for either sex; don't feel ashamed or think you have to repress these sexual feelings just because someone took advantage of you in the past. Making sure your future relationships are based on mutual kindness and respect (the opposite of that abusive dynamic that was forced onto with your cousin) is what is important, regardless of who you are with. People who were sexually abused and come out of it completely heterosexual never feel a need to ask themselves if that was caused by the abuse, because that question is entirely based on what society sees as normal and not really about a scientific cause/effect being proven, which it never has.

Jan 24, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

I believe this after reading your story: For a number of years while at an all male school a number of the senior boys preyed on me and younger boys: Bringing us to the locker room or place where they would go unnoticed and do things like happened you: Yes for a number of years after I was confused: I was from a very rural place here in Irlenad and fellows my own age asked me to get involved playing team sports: That was the turning point for me: Because then I realized I was normal/natural and did not have a liking for other adolecents my own age and gender: then I began inter-acting with females and yes I knew then I was (heterosexual): Always believe in yourself: Darlene sure has given you food for thought and words of help and advice to think about: I do encourage that you begin having a healthy mind in a healthy body: take part in team sports with your own age and gender: also take part in sporting and cultural activities with a general mix of your age and gender: Your cousin sure did you an injustice and yes as Darlene who knows best that he is still using and abusing boys upto 13 and moving on just as he did you: You sure don't want other innocent boys to be living with confused minds as you after him: So tell some-one you really confide and trust. What looks quite natural and yes, one's feels good and the sexual ets is most satisfying: But Darlene sure put that in perspective for you and indeed for me; You'll be a winner and you will live your life to the full: Get out and about taking part healthily with your own age and gender playing sports: It will do a world of good and you'll make real and natural friends and have mates for the rest of your life:

Feb 01, 2011
Thanks Everyone!
by: Anonymous B

Yeah thanks everyone, that apology made me feel much better and I don't know why, but just someone knowing how I feel has given me a bit of hope.

My cousin is in my family and I have to see him a lot, it was a power situation for him, he acts like nothing has happened, but it still gets to me alot now that i'm older.

I have found a religion, I found Islam at the age of 16 which is just a relief, but sometimes God can seem so far away even though he maybe so close.

I found Islam due to my school teacher who was very religious it just gives you peace of mind, I would also say I am a Christian, and belive in Judasim but religion my religion is what holds me together.

Thanks everyone, it's going to stick for life, but knowing im not the only one makes me feel more relaxed, im not just a freak, it happens to alot of people and hes the freak for doing this to me, and they're the freaks for what they did to you all.

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