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Oct 31, 2009
There could be legal ramifications, but not what you might think...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Andrea, I can only imagine the sense of betrayal you are now feeling: devastated is too limited a word, I'm sure. But I absolutely must pass some information along. By having these videos in your possession, you are actually in possession of pornography; child pornography. And that can lead to serious legal consequences. Please contact an attorney about these videos and get some legal advice as soon as possible. I cannot stress that enough.

I can't advise you about whether or not to tell your family. Child abuse or not, you have been emotionally traumatized by these videos and the knowledge of what Sam really was and what he really intended. I strongly advise you to seek out some form of counselling in order to deal with all the mental anguish that learning this about your stepfather has caused. You deserve that, Andrea. Don't feel as though you must go through this alone. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Nov 01, 2009
Heartfelt Sympathy
by: Linda

Andrea, How unfair it is to be put in such a hideous situation by your stepfather. I shudder to think if someone was doing that to me. Such a violaton of your privacy. If I were you, I would destroy those tapes and not tell anyone, it would only cause them pain. Your stepfather is dead and is recieving his punishment in hell. But, keep in mind it is a crime to own child pornography. It is up to you to do what is right. I hope you can find someone who can help you through the trauma this has caused you and move on with your life. Good luck to you and God Bless........Linda

Nov 05, 2009
child abuse hater feels for you
by: child abuse hater

i feel so bad that this guy has been filming u and now u cant do much about it because u dont want to upset ur family and cos he cant be punished due to his death, i hope u make the right choices which to me would be to destroy them videos and try hard to forget the trauma u have over them.

hope all goes well for u and just know not every one is wat they seem to be as u have found out.

just know that even tho u dont know me i will be there in your mind supporting u thru life.

child abuse hater is on the side of anyone who has suffered child abuse wether it be physical mental or social.


Nov 09, 2009
be warey of deceitful and cunning people
by: maurice

Andrea W be brave, stay strong in your mind, think positive thoughts, Darlene has given you stepping stones to let go and move on, that is what you must do. Andrea W you were deceived by a a man Called Sam. all good on the outside while totally rotten in mind and inside. Surface level all loving, all caring but deep within a rotten deceptive self satisfying sicko of a human being. I find it hard to find words to describe his sick mind. It is not an easy one to make a decision on. For what it is worth, I believe burning the tapes is your first step, maybe the second, take them with you to a Lawyer who will tell you exactly the sicko Sam was. As he is dead now getting him named and shamed is out of the question. A counsellor/Therapist will guide you in the right direction as to whether or not to tell your Mother/Sister. You need professional guidance on what to do. Please remove them from under your bed to a place at a distance and out of your reach. Don't be mentally disturbing yourself any further. You know the contents of them. By talking with a counsellor you will let go of what you have learned and experienced what was in Sam's tragic and sick mind. Why he did not burn them and get rid of them is beyond me. How he hid the camera's unknowing to you, your mother/sister and all who used the bathroom is one very sick mind while deceiving you all that he was a good person. It is a total mystery Andrea W. You certainly found a safe haven and a good place to tell your story. In Darlene you will find the answer as to what is the best way for you to deal with your predicament. Let go and let God and darlene be your guide. Please don't wait around get immediate help and rid yourself of those Tapes. Burn them and as you watch them going up in smoke let go of the memories and secretness contained in them. Be Brave, Be strong you'll do the right thing for the good of yourself and all concerned. My Prayers are with you.

Feb 05, 2013
My opinion
by: BMW princess

I am sorry that happen to you.
Nobody deserves that. Because Sam is dead I do not think it would be worth it to turn the videos in to the cops. I would stop on them repeatedly. But that is just opinion

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