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Dec 16, 2007
Forgiveness??? I'm confused
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

While I think it is admirable that you have forgiven your mother, Amanda, based on what you wrote, I'm more than just a little confounded.

Your mother stopped you from eating food and beat you severely for eating food while you were at school.

She stopped visitation with your biological father when she discovered you were eating while visiting him on the weekends.

She pummelled you to the point of probable brain injury, and left long-lasting head swelling and bruises that could have led to death. And she knew what she had done was wrong because she wouldn't let you be seen by others while your injuries were still apparent.

She left you with a new bruise each and every day during at least one school year.

She slapped you across the face, basically calling you a liar, when you disclosed that your stepdad was sexually abusing you and your sisters.

She stood idly by when your stepdad put a gun to your head and pulled the what-you-didn't-know-at-the-time was an empty-barreled trigger. Then, when you ran away because of the gun incident, your mother found you hitch-hiking, picked you up, took you home, sat on you, then put hairspray and dish liquid into your eye. This could have left you blind.

The above are but a few of the heinous acts your mother committed against you, Amanda. I'm not clear about how it is that you find it in your heart to forgive your mother for her malicious abuse and for enabling abuse at the hands of your stepdad, yet you say you can never forgive your stepdad.

I strongly urge you to seek out some form of counselling, Amanda. While forgiveness is important and is done for you, not for your abuser, I can't help but wonder if you have miss-placed blame for what happened to you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying your stepdad has earned your forgiveness or that you must forgive him. Nor am I saying that you shouldn't forgive your mother; because I sincerely believe that in order to move forward you do need to forgive. What I am saying is that burying the trauma and emotional residue caused by your mother's reprehensible actions and inactions will likely manifest in every other area of your life: relationships, ability to trust, ability to be intimate, eating/sleeping/anxiety disorders, etc. I am concerned that your forgiveness has been at the expense of you dealing with your past.

Dec 16, 2007
How Could They?
by: Francine

OMG this is so sad! Did you ever forgive them? I'm so sorry that your mom became a monster to you after divorcing your dad. Blinding you with diswashing soap and hairspary is just not right at all! My parents hit me, too, but they had never done more than that! But that's good when you moved in with your grandma until something was wrong with her. I'm also glad that you moved in with another family member who took better care of you than your hateful mother and your disgusting, perverted stepfather, both of whom should've stayed in jail for a long time after going there. You could've deserved much better! You might want to try some counselling.

Dec 18, 2007
omg!
by: christina & charlotte

omg after reading this story we was heartroken for for the stuff you went through on your own. and we cant believe that after all this you stil speak tu her.. she needs 2 b locked up.. for wat shes done.. n nevah leave your kids with her.. i wud nevah trust her

sorry for all the things youve been through, but at least its all ova now
xxxx
kisses
xxxx

Dec 18, 2007
You are so strong
by: Chrissy

You are such a strong person. I read your story and just think of the fear you must of had. The fact that you told someone at your age is amazing. You may have saved your siblings lives. You should be proud of your strength. Your Mom was sick and at least now she has gotten the help she needed. You may have saved her life as well.

Dec 18, 2007
Sorry
by: Anonymous

I understand how you feel. It remind me of what happen to me. To tell the truth I never told a soul what happen to me not even my mom, because I was so scared about it. I should have but I never did.I don"t have to deal with it anymore, because my mom fanilly broke up with him. I had to deal with it for 11 years. I pray that everyone would be safe from that. I feel so sorry for you!!! Now you are safe. I sill have nightmars from it. I'm olny 13 years old. i gotta go bye!!! with all love. leslie in canada

Jul 07, 2008
Cage the animals!
by: Linda

Amanda, I was stunned when I read your story. Not from the abuse your Mother?? inflicted on you and that dog of a stepfather. But the fact that you forgave her. ***Edited as inappropriate by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster*** A gun stuck at their head is too easy for them. They should be locked up in the worst of prisons and tortured every day of their sorry lives. You were the victim in all this tragedy. Your mom and stepfather should be begging you to forgive them. I hope they burn in hell. Seek counselling and forget about them. Best of luck to you.

Oct 15, 2008
Why?
by: Not Broken !!!!(change my name)

I am glad things are better and you got out of there. All I can say Is Good luck!

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