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Aug 18, 2010
Amanda, when he put his hand in you, you WERE raped:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have to WANT to forgive yourself before you will begin to heal. And now that you're pregnant, your hormones are really kicking in and so is the fear. But understand that NONE of what happened to either you or your sister was your fault. NOT OF IT! You need to see a counselor, but this time, with the idea of self-forgiveness first and foremost, event though there is technically nothing to forgive yourself for. And consider that not all counselors are created equally. Consider a different type of counseling for yourself. If you don't, you and your baby will suffer the consequences. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Aug 18, 2010
we will survive
by: Anonymous

I am very glad you have found some one to love.I to wsz abusedand raped over many yrs by my step-father.when i got pregnant i thought the same way.but u will learn to cope so u wont smother ure child.but just the same u will know the sighnes and be more aware of things around ure child and know u have become a survivor and not a victim which is great.know u have told the world ure worst secret
so its all good time from here on out.love ure self and husband and enjoy ure child.good luck we are all here 4 one reason to tell our story and help another become a survivor.

Aug 19, 2010
Please Oh Please Be gentle, knd and understanding of to yourself
by: maurice

Amanda: you'll be fine: your baby will be fine; You'll be a great mother: Follow Darlene's loving, honest but firm words to you: Then Amanda you'll be fair to yourself, the daddy of the child and your lovley baby: You were brave, you wanted to get your cousin out of circulation: you tried to the best of your ability but the mystery is your mother would not believe you: even check out your truth's about what he was doing: You are a loving and protecting young woman because you wanted to protect your sister: Darlene sure know the value of therapy look what it did for her Amanda: Made her a winner and now a angel of real help and love to all her visitors on her safe haven site: Let her be your angel NOW too: Act on her advice and loving heartfelt words to you: I guarantee once your believe in yourself and say I will: I can: I must: because I AM WORTH IT: get my loving message to you; Amanda, say I AM WORTH IT: Now also have a healthy mind in a healthy body: I betb there must be a moomy's to be club/group in your twon/city join them doing exercises together; talking together; re-assuring together; That Amanada will make the difference: Always believe in yourself: Build up your own self worth: self esteem a good mirror image:Be gentle and kind to yourself and your body especially in front of the mirror on your own: Your special space: Think positive thoughts about yourself: say positive things, like I am beautiful, I am special, I love me: I like my etc it is a beautiful part of me It is mine It is me: It was made dirty by those sicko's now I will be gentle and kind to it etc; massage your body with soothing uplifting oils and creams: Now hug and cuddle yourself: Era go on there is no one looking: Feel good about yourself Amanada: You know what Darlene asked you: Self forgiveness: I will: I can etc Amanda: The word I am sending this with is Talcum: Which reminds me of the talcum powder my mam put on my botty as a baby: Think about that Amanada

Aug 21, 2010
I THINK
by: Suze

Hi, i read this whole story and i think you should see a therapist and maybe that'll help i am 100% Against not only child abuse but animal abuse or anything that has to do with abuse and i'm sure you will be a strong woman that will survive without these things happening to you don't beat yourself up about your little sister ...you couldnt do anything about it it wasnt your fault and i think you were very brave to post this story up to show everyone what happend to you

Aug 27, 2010
For the love of our child
by: Michelle

Dear Amanda,

You and I share a very similar story of the "club". I'm one of three girl cousins and all of us lost our innocence to the older boy cousins. It wasn't until I had my first daughter six years ago that I sought help. You are doing the "RIGHT" thing for your child and your "AMAZING" husband. I, too, have one of those and he has been so supportive of me finding MY path to heal. It HAS NOT been easy. I have told the "safe" people in my world about what I'm going through, and am at the point of confronting the abusers....augh! I honor your courage and TRULY BELIEVE your child will be safe. You will never close your eyes or allow him/her to be behind a closed door with ANYONE! It is through secrecy and fear that the abuse continues...and, you are a SURVIVOR!!!! All my best, Michelle

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