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Oct 10, 2007
You have every right to be proud of surviving!
by: Darlene Barriere

Amanda, what you lived through wasn't living; it was survival of the fittest every day of your life. You were pitted against a much bigger, stronger and "motivated" opponent. The fact that a physical fight with you turned your stepdad on sexually was nothing short of twisted. You didn't deserve to be treated violently. And you didn't deserve to be blamed for the violence you were forced to resort to.

By using such violent physical force, your parents wrongly taught you (and your brothers) that physical fighting was an acceptable method of dealing, indeed, that it was required. It isn't acceptable. It wasn't acceptable then; it isn't acceptable now. They need to be held accountable for the way they treated you: your stepdad for violating you physically and sexually; your mother for enabling the violence and abuse your stepdad inflicted.

You've had to protect yourself physically for so long that I am concerned for you, Amanda. I'm concerned that your much-too-practiced "Fight or Flight" response will continue to kick in because that is what is so familiar to you. You didn't get to choose your family or how they raised you, but you can choose the way you want to live now. You said you are now away from your family; wherever you are, I sincerely hope you are getting some sort of counselling to help you deal with the residual of all that violence. You deserve the peace and tranquility that counselling can help you find, Amanda. You are definitely worth it.

Oct 10, 2007
How Could They Do This?!
by: Francine

Amanda, I'm so sorry for your mother being a traitor and for your dad hurting you. If you still need help, there are two options: (1) try a lot of counselling), (2) call the police if that abuse wouldn't stop! You deserve for your mother to say, "Honey, I am so wrong to neglect you and I feel so guilty about that. I believe you so much and I'm sorry that I refused to believe you. From now on, I will always be there for you. and I will never tell the police on you ever again."

As for your dad, you also deserve for him to say, "I'd hate to fight you and I fell extremely guilty to fight you and will never ever duke it out (means "fight", literally) with you again. As for my niece, I will never bring her over to fight you ever again. And I will never rape nor have sex with you ever again." They need to apologize; you deserve it.

You are not stupid; everyone knows that you are the smartest person alive; just don't let anyone think otherwise. The only stupidity that I see is from your parents and your niece.

Oct 11, 2007
by: kirsty

that i well horrible why would any parent want to do such thing good look to the girl it is died horrible and wronge

Oct 12, 2007
by: Arrio

Thats right ...don't let nobody hurt you!!!

Oct 14, 2007
by: Anonymous

Omg Your So Brave!
Well Done!

Oct 16, 2007
by: Anonymous

>.< thats so mean! i cant believe ur mom didnt trust u! >.< if WAS her i would trust u in a heart beat not a guy that married 2 the 2nd time i would trust my kids 1st

P.S im readin these stories 2 help me on my persuaive speech 4 my 9th grd hon. English on how Child abuse is wrong n that child abuser should get a harsher punishment then a lil one

Oct 20, 2007
My comment
by: Anonymous

Im really pround you have become your own person away from them, keep smiling and always do things that make you happy!

Oct 22, 2007
by: Jovan GArr

hope your llife is better as you grow up much love your life will grow stronger as you live it so keep on living it

Dec 14, 2007
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry that you went through that. I am 15 and had a miscarriage last month. I am so sorry. Parents should not do that. People need to find different ways to discipline their kids rather than just hitting them and molesting them and other things like that. I am so sorry I am happy you are away from them. My dad hit me when I was pregnant and my step mom was hitting me too. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I wish you the best of luck in your life. xoxo.

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