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May 29, 2008
You are WORTHY...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are NOT worthless. You are NOT stupid. You are NOT mental. You are smart and articulate and you are definitely worthy. What your parents are doing is wrong on so many levels. You don't deserve to be physically beaten. You don't deserve to be emotionally battered. You deserve to have loving, nurturing, supportive and respectful parents. But they aren't respectful; they're hurtful. And to NOT believe you when you disclosed sexual abuse at the hands of your cousin was the ultimate in betrayal. They should have protected you and kept you safe form harm.

I understand why you self-harm. The pain of the cut is far easier to deal with than the pain of having parents who so badly mistreat you; there's a certain comfort in that. But cutting yourself is also a cry for help. And so is writing to me on this website. I know you want help, and I know you are afraid. It's all a confusing mess in your head right now; this I know and understand all too well, because when I was fourteen, I was where you are. The difference is that when I was fourteen, there were no teachers or counsellors or social workers or organizations willing to help me. Instead of trying to help me, they told me that my parents were having a "bad day" or that my parents were only beating and battering me because they loved me, or worse, because I deserved it. There was one counsellor who tried more than others, though. She tried to encourage me by saying that the best revenge was a good education—I was skipping more classes than I was showing up for. But by that time, the last thing I cared about was going to school. No one was hearing me. No one understood, or wanted to understand. I was so desperate and depressed by the time I was fourteen that I really believed suicide was the only way my pain would end. That's not the case for you.

I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. And you should disclose the abuse. You're WORTH disclosing the abuse. Take advantage of the resources available to you; they're there to help you through this dreadful time in your life.

And just for the record, your story was not at all long; you wrote it the perfect length.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

May 29, 2008
You are worth it!!
by: Anonymous

Hey, I understand how you feel because I am in the same boat. You are worse off because I was never sexual abused. I have question on this website.
Is it child abuse if I'm not bruised or injured?

I feel the same as you. I attempted suicide and I used to feel like I wasn't worth anything. My mom tells me that and puts me down. I thought it was my fault. My friend has helped me alot. I have not told anyone yet because I am scared to death and don't want to believe it. I am trying to get over that. I will tell someone in the future when I am strong enough and I think you should too.

I just wanted to comment because some of the stuff you are feeling is the same as me. Its normal. I didn't go threw with suicide because i thought it was selfish. Stuff like that...it amazed me how we could be having the same feelings. Take care of yourself because you don't deserve this.

I will be strong and tell sometime soon and I think you should too. You are worth it!!!

Sep 02, 2008
i hear you
by: RACHEL

i know u think theirs no hope but their is...i can relate to you i never talked to anyone about my abuse either... im 22 and have 2 beautiful kiddos ive beed with my husband for 4yrs and still he is clueless on how my childhood was...i have 5 sisters and all of us were abused including my mom. but i think its to late for me to talk to anyone and i regret it. so please talk to anybody your so young and have your whole life ahead of you. i know your a great person dont let them bring you down

Mar 03, 2013
So little love shown...
by: Anonymous

AlwaysAnonymous, my heart goes out to you. All those years of trying to please your parents and not seeing love; all those years of also being nice to your brother out of love and not receiving love. I don't really know what to say...just to let you know that I read what you wrote.

Mar 03, 2013
Seriously, get out of that house!
by: Anonymous

Please try to get out of that house as soon as you can, AlwaysAnonymous; you've suffered enough; in fact, you shouldn't ever even have suffered at all. Your parents are mentally ill. As soon as you get away from them (and tell someone you trust), your healing can start in earnest.

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