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May 04, 2011
Alissa:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You ARE strong and you ARE determined. These qualities can get you far in life. And though I applaud that you have taken a pragmatic approach to what happened to you, I will also say that as you go through various ages and stages of your life, what happened to you as a little girl both at the hands of those sick boys and at the hands of your mother, may haunt you in ways you cannot yet fathom. You know that the abuse was not your fault. You know that your mother betrayed and abandoned you when you needed her most. You also know that she is now incapable of taking any kind of responsibility for the way she mistreated you. These can all come back to affect every aspect of your life as you mature. If that happens, seek out some form of counselling. Don't allow yourself to shut down. Don't allow yourself to cut off from human emotion because of fear of what might happen if you let your guard down. I speak from experience here. Putting on a strong front will only work for so long before things begin to crumble around you. Stay strong, but not at the expense of experiencing Love in all you do. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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May 05, 2011
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Alissa, your mom and those sick excuses for boys are wrong. You are not dirty; you are neat and perfect just as you were. You are not bad; you are a good; beautiful person. Something's seriously wrong with your mother and she, along with those boys, needs help. Oh, and locking you up in a room for hours and lying on top of you just to prevent you from unlocking the door is a really cowardly thing to do because only cowards would do such things like that to such a helpless little girl you once were. Oh, and I can't believe that she would abandon you to those sick monsters for boys and allow them to molest and berate you...how dare she! Oh,and you are not to blame for her nearly-sadistic behavior nor the boys' perverted, disgusting behavior; they are to blame because they chose to offend and abuse you. You were the child; your "mom" was the adult. She, along with the boys; had all the power and only misused it over you. Oh, and if she ever hurts you again, please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.

May 05, 2011
be brave: Be Strong: Love your beautiful Self
by: maurice

Alissa R: Be brave: You are strong Darlene noticed that coming through in all you wrote ever so truthfull in what you could reacll: Now persevere at getting help: Some form of counselling would start you off on the right footing: To build up your SELF WORTH and ESTEEM what I am going to suggest will give you confidence to begin to trust yourself and other of the human species: I want you to think about having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Alissa R this will empower you no-end: You'll make real and natural true friends for life: You'll see your body in a whole different light: You'll see that wonderful and beautiful one lokking out at you from the mirror equally in a different light: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: I want you to be active and alive with your few friends: class mates or fellow students taking Part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities: I know I have expereinced and seen it for the past forty years; It gives one a greater sense of freedom of mind and body and to look at oneself in a constructive and positive way: My new motto is I WILL I CAN I MUST because I am WORTH it: you have the will power; you have the determination now get to it: Trusting another will come very easy after you begin to trust yourself with other: There is safety in numbers: So Alissa R don't offend laziness any more after reading this: Take Darlene's comment to your heart and act on it: You'll be a winner in life: I will etc: Be gentle and kind tour yourself and your body: I will etc:

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