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Jul 16, 2009
Be there for yourself first...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Alexis, the way you are going about this is the right way for you. You are seeking help for yourself, which is critical and must come first. You cannot help others until you learn to help yourself.

Your mother has deep-seated problems that she has chosen to vent on you. That does not make you a bad person, nor does it make what she says true. In fact, what she calls you are lies; lies that in her terribly confused mind are the way for her to cope with whatever is "undoing her". But as you can tell, she's not coping well at all. That is not your fault. Whatever is going on with your mother is up to her to deal with. You cannot look after her, nor can you look after your sister, much as you want to. You can only be there for your sister, when she is ready. And when she IS ready, you'll know what to do. Just so you know, your sister's self-destructive behaviour is consistent with having been emotionally abused, which she was when she witnessed the abuse your mother inflicted upon you. Both of you have much healing ahead of you. And of course, so does your mother.

Stay strong, Alexis—yes, you ARE strong, stronger than you may realize. It took great courage and strength to remove yourself from that abusive home. Don't ever feel guilt or shame for that. Just keep working on yourself, and see the wonderful, caring and loving human being you are; all in spite of coming from such abuse; another strength to recognize in yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

And just for the record, names on this site are unimportant. What IS important is that you are being heard and validated.

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Jul 16, 2009
A Presumed Enabler For a Dad...and a Vicious Beater For a Mother
by: Anonymous

Alexis, your so-called mother is wrong. You are not ugly; you are not worthless; you are not fat; you are not stupid; MY GOODNESS GRACIOUS, YOU ARE NONE OF THOSE. You are beautiful, smart, articulate and worthy of love, dignity and respect, all of which you were sadistically denied of. What that animal did you you and your sister was and still is cruel and sadistic. I hope that you and your sister try counselling. Be brave, Alexis, and stay strong.

Jul 17, 2009
I'm the most wonderful and beautiful of children every born
by: maurice

Alexis 2. that you are and no more. Your mother needs loads of professional help just be true to herself. She certainly ain't a mother in the true sense if she abused you in the way she did. Sadly she did not LOVE you and your sister as mother's do and should. Darlene you have found, she has given you loving re-assuring words for you to build up your own self worth, self esteem and to value your true self. Alexis 2 it is great she said to you names don't matter on her site. I say it is the most wonderful and beautiful human being ever born behind the name is the most important. That is who you are, all the opposites to what your Mother said and called you. You were innocent/vulnerable as a child to understand her abuse of you. I was never to blame, it was not my fault, she took her own low self esteem and was ignorant as to how to love you and your sister. No excuse whatsoever for the way she treated you Alexis 2. Great you are so brave to realize this is not right and leave the circle of abuse. Darlene has suggested ways of how to LOVE yourself begin with the friend or friends who really love you for the wonderful and beautiful girl/teenager young person you truly are. That you are and no more. I am a believer in each of us having a good mirror image of ourselves. So Alexis 2 look at yourself in the mirror, now say to that beautiful you in the mirror all the nicest and most positive adjectives about your self to yourself. Love that body of yours, treat it with love and respect, soothe it all over with tender loving care. I guarantee you you'll begin to really feel good about yourself. If it is possible with your friends encouragement and support speak to a counsellor who will help you to blossom into the most precious of children ever born. I can, I will, I must just for me and hopefully my sister will listen and learn from me for her own sake. I'M SPECIAL I am not just saying this I believe it to be true about me.

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