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Sep 02, 2009
I hear you...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Alexander, you certainly have a right to the rage, the hatred, the hostility. You were violated in the worst possible ways by the very adults who were in charge of keeping you safe from harm. I understand all of it oh so well. I also understand how you feel about healing and forgiveness.

I learned along my own journey that healing was possible and so was forgiveness (much to my reluctant surprise), but that it had to start within my Self because only there could I see things in a different light. Only there could I choose to overcome the adversity that I was forced to endure. Only there could I look at those obstacles as opportunities to turn pain into power. That power is within you, Alexander, but you must first choose to engage it. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I look forward to reading more of it in the coming days.

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Darlene Barriere
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Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


Sep 03, 2009
The Scars of abuse will remain if we choose not to let go of them.
by: maurice

Thank you Alexander, your story brought up similiar feelings in me. That my own story of abuse was mild compared to the many stories I have been priveledged to read since I arrived on Darlene's wonderful safe place haven site. Her vision in setting it up has given many the opportunity of getting their true and real telling of the abuse story of their chests. Her individaul comments to each one personally should hopefully help the writer to seek the neccessary help they need to let go of all the scars/marks that never heal as you say Alexander. The scars/marks of abuse especially of emotional, sexual abuse will remain if we (I) choose to hld onto them by not seeking the help required to let go of them. Action is far greater than all the words I write. I must act on the helpful advice of Darlene's words of support, encouragement, feelings, and emphaty with each one of her visitors. Her words to you Alexander are truly heartfelt ones. She say I learned along my own journey that healing was possible and so was forgiveness. ( much to my reluctant surprise)Alexander That Grandfather of yours was aided and abetted by all who seemed to have condoned his abusive behaviour. Look what they did to you by their pathetic silence. Total cowards. Yes, while you regard your story as mild you sure make the point that any level of abuse effects the innocent vunerable child/teenager/adolecent. Thank you for sharing the mess it made for you inyour life. Like wise I went through and put mysefl through alot before I began healing from my physical abuse (mild) but it sure did screw me up The emotional effects certainly remain long after the marks of the belt leather or whatever instruments used in the beatings are insignificant. The abuser never thinks of that at the time. Alexander, Always believe in yoursefl. While we are survivers of abuse it does not prevent us from living our lives to the full each day we wake up. Live well, laugh alot, Love much. Look in that mirror and Say I love me, it's OK I did many moons ago and found it absolutely positive in all aspects of love of oneself. I am certain you have a friend or two who know all you shared with us. Who value you, respect you, let them hug you in total trust of all you've shared. Hug yourself too, era go on. It's a great beginning in trusting oneself.

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