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Feb 11, 2010
Aleda:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I understand how you grew up only too well. I experience very similar. I once called the police when my father was threatening to harm my mother. Several officers were dispatched. They suggested to my mother that she leave with us kids, and one officer actually suggested to my father that he go to the pub for a drink to cool off, knowing that he was already drunk! Counselling helped me immensely, Aleda. It helped me in my adult life. It helped me NOT to take all that "stuff" with me in the rest of my life. I highly recommend that you find some form of counselling in order to help you with the residual of coming from such a terrible environment. You didn't deserve to be mistreated, but you certainly deserve the help now that you have been mistreated. It is the best gift you can give to yourself, to your child, and to your marriage. You may well find that your health issues may lessen in the process. They certainly did with me. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 12, 2010
Let Go, with the help of people who love you and counselling
by: maurice

Aleda, arriving on Darlene's site is your chance to make new beginnings in your life for the sake of your child and your family. Her loving encourageing words to you hopefully will give you the inner strength to act. counselling has brought her from being victim to victory over her own abuse. She is ever so honest in telling you what counselling meant to her. We her visitors are so fortuneate that she set up her site. Aleda I am sure you value her heartfelt words to you. You'll do what is the best for you and all who love and cherish you for the wonderful and beautiful person you are NOW. Let GO of the memories of abuse. that so called Father of yours did you an injustice. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Look in the mirror and be gentle and kind but firm on the me looking out at you. Build up your Self Esteem. I'm Special, I love me. Live well, Laugh alot, Love much. Always believe in yourself.

Feb 12, 2010
To Aleda
by: Helen Louise

Dear Aleda, my parents did not drink but were crazy, anyway. Violence and other kinds of abuse were daily occurances in our house. I learned never to trust.

I had no idea of how to love and became an alcoholic in the attempt to dull the pain. Luckily, after I got sober, I found Alanon. I have learned that I did not cause my parent's behavior, that I could not possibly have controled it and could not cure it. The daily practice of the spiritual, not religious, principles they have taught me has given me a health sense of identity and helped me to put together a life worth living. Where I was always tied in knots of fear, now I live a life full of joy, and yes, sometimes sorrow.

I urge you to find a group near you. They are all a little bit different, depending on the core members, so if you don't feel comfortable in the first group, find another. You and your child can have a good life and eventually the pain will be healed. You do not have to suffer.






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