Comments for Child Abuse Story From Albert

Click here to add your own comments

Jul 20, 2008
It WAS sexual abuse...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Bert, I commented on another man's story back in January of this year. If you haven't already, I suggest you read his story and my corresponding reply at: Part 1 of Dan's Story. There are similarities between what you've disclosed here and what Dan disclosed.

And yes, Bert, you experienced sexual abuse. Dottie was a predator who had a target rich environment. She was able to disguise her predatory behaviour as discipline or care-giving, and there was virtually no one to either keep tabs on her or in any way determine that her methods were actually criminal.

I wrote an article at the beginning of May 2008 that deals with a disturbing aspect of the spanking issue, one that society has difficulty accepting, but one that the psychiatric community long ago recognized. I am in no way suggesting that the entire article is applicable in your situation—please don't misunderstand and assume that's why I'm pointing you toward the piece. What I am saying is that there are elements addressed that are reflective of Dottie's behaviour, in particular, the way she spanked you children: I believe she was living out a sexual fantasy. You'll find the article on this site, titled: Can Childhood Spankings be Administered Because of or Lead to a Spanking Fetish?

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and I, Bert. I wish you and your family all the best.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jul 31, 2008
Thanks Albert.
by: Dee

Thanks for telling us your experiences,you suffered a humiliating form of abuse and I admire you for sharing what you went through.I've been working hard to cope with my past,it's difficult,sometimes I give in to self-pity and I sulk and whine and feel really bad for myself.It helps me to read experiences such as yours.
Don't minimize your abuse Albert,what is done to you as a child is collosal,you are your whole world when your a child,the center of your own universe ,you don't see outside the box yet.Also
children are tender and need tender care,it doesn't take alot to crush such tender little hearts and self-esteems and self-respect,your painful experiences were real and they need to be acknowledged and your suffering validated by others.I certainly view what you experienced as abuse as I am sure anyone who reads them will also.

Aug 05, 2008
hey
by: Cassie1

what I really want to say... what I'm still learning at 14 years old. Is that it doesn't matter who's child abuse story is worse... who's life is worse.. We all are going through pain.. and all of us will have scars for the rest of our lives. thats what matters. that somebody hurt us. and treated us wrong. I wish you much luck with your 3 children... and I know you are treating them right. it is very great that your wife knows what has happened to you.. that will help your relationship and it will help you.. you don't have a huge secret to keep... Keep living your life to the fullest. Don't let those memories haunt your mind. STAY STRONG FOR YOUR FAMILY AND MOST IMPORTANT YOURSELF!!!! I know you will.
Cassie1

May 10, 2009
your not alone
by: Scott Canada

Sexual abuse comes in different forms.I believe I was sexually abused through spankings.You are not alone.Spanking is sick,especially in front of others.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Write Your Child Abuse Story.

Return to Child Abuse Story From Albert

Disclaimer: To the best of my knowledge the child abuse
stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.



E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...

Most Recent

  1. The reasons I've been absent

    Nov 14, 17 01:30 PM

    It's been another challenging time for me. As I actively work toward an online program for survivors of sexual abuse, I've also had to deal with issues at home. Hubby has been diagnosed with 2 types o…

    Read More

  2. I Self Medicate

    Jun 26, 17 04:40 PM

    When I was 3 we left Illinois for Arizona. The day we left my grandfather had a heart attack and died. I have one uncomfortable grainy memory of him. I

    Read More

  3. Ongoing Abuse

    Jun 06, 17 03:03 PM

    I'm 15/16. I am still getting abused physically, mentally and verbally by my family especially my mother. I don't understand what to do to overcome this.

    Read More

E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...