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Sep 15, 2009
You are NOT weak; your father is the weak one...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What your father came from was every reason to NOT do what he did to you, Adam. Instead, he chose to repeat the cycle of violence, and exert power over you in the way power had been exerted on him. I'm confident you won't repeat that cycle. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 15, 2009
I'm not going to rear my children the way my parents did me.
by: maurice

Thankfully the majority of parents break from the way they were reared to being more loving, caring, understanding and cherish their children crediting them with gifts and intelligence. Allowing them to grow up as naturally as is humanly possibel. Your father was not one of those Parents. You were the unlucky child of his abuse and control. Those forms of beatings were barbaric and sadistic. Your tender body must have been scarred and marked badly each time. He was just one uneducated man who did not learn from the control and abuse he suffered as a child. Your Gand Father certainly certainly took advantage of your innocence and vunerability. Adam you sure are very aticulate in the relating of your abuse. You are also highly inteeligent now knowing you were badly abused by your Father. Read Darlene's comment. she has put it in a nutshell for you to understand. At 19 you can begin healing from all you were put through, please seek the help of a counsellor/therapist who will re-assure you that there is life after abuse. Always believe in yoursefl Adam. Get the know the real you and move on in your life. Live well, laugh alot, Love much. Build up your own self worth/self esteem. Begin Today having a high mirror image of yourself. Look in the mirror, the larger the better so you see the complete me in the mirror. Think and say positive things about yourself I am this I am that. Not negative ones I don't like this, that not nice, Think positive, act positive and be positive in all you do and say. I can, I will, I must just for me. Live your life to the full each day you wake up. have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Have one/two special people in your life called friends whom you relate your must intimate in trust with. They in turn will support you in everyway possible. I'M SPECIAL AND I LOVE ME.

Sep 15, 2009
wow
by: adam

thank you both so much. i didn't think anyone would really take the time to read this. i just wanted to get it out.
i am so sorry for the abuse that's happened in everyone else's life, but so glad there are other people that have an understanding of this pain.
we are not weak. we're stronger than we can imagine.

Sep 15, 2009
Your dad has problems
by: Anonymous

Adam, I'm sorry about your father going out of control. I can relate; whenever I got beaten, my so-called family always tells me things like "You deserved to be punished for being bad", "Oh come on, I was just disciplining you. Get over it", "You are bad", "I wouldn't have had to beat you severely if you just do what I say" and the like. Your father has lots of problems and he really needs help...but you need help, too. I hope both of you try counselling. Be brave, Adam, and stay strong.

Sep 15, 2009
to you who remained anonymous
by: Adam

i'm sorry you were hurt too, and i hope you also try counseling if you haven't.
i know my dad needs help, he's too stubborn to get it.
the worst is when they tell you you deserve it. because you eventually start to believe it. we cannot and must not believe this. it's the first step of defeat. we are all special and unique and we must let it show.
i wish you the best of luck!

Sep 15, 2009
Adam, you are so brave
by: Tear

Adam i had no idea you visited this site. i have never been brave enough to talk about anything.
i was not physically abused as you were, my pain was mentally.
it hurt me so much to see you in that kind of pain, and crying. and believing that you were stupid and worthless. i developed so much hate for him because of that.
Adam you are the bravest person i know and i hope you know i'm so proud of you and all of your amazing accomplishments in this short life. you won, Adam. not Vic. and i know you'll continue to grow as an amazing person. love ya little bro!

Sep 16, 2009
The silent siblings
by: maurice

Oh how ever so natural and real. Adam, Tear brought out a real life situation of reality. Paining with you, hurting with you and feeling totally helpless to intervene. Reading Tear's comment I could not but value and respect her heartfelt acknowledgement of YOU. It hurt me so much to see that pain and crying. Oh a true loving sister Then and now. The only difference is that she's able to say it to you Now. Adam she knows her little brother. She believe's in you. Continue taking all the positive steps in your healing process. Always believe in your self.
I know of so mamy family situations where abuse went on and the sibling were helpless out of fear and not knowing what to do. Tear certainly brought that out in her comment. Build up your mirror image of yoursefl. I can, I will, I must, go for it Adam.

Sep 16, 2009
thank you
by: Adam

i was a bit shocked to see my sister comment on here.
we talked about this for a long time last night and got a lot of feelings out.
i'm happy to say we're both trying counseling and doing our best to be at peace with what has happened. so we can continue to grow positively as people.
maurice, you hit that perfectly. my sister is amazing and i'm so lucky to have her.
darlene, if you should read this, this sight helped me in so many ways. thank you.

From Darlene: You are so welcome, Adam. I'm delighted that this site has helped you, and that you and your sister are finding a way to heal together.

And yes, I read every single comment that comes through this site. In fact, none of them go live until I have read and approved them. I do this in order to protect the safety of all my visitors. I can't possibly answer all of them, but I do read each one.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Sep 17, 2009
words dail me right now
by: maurice

The feelings in me now are so emotional I find it hard to put words to. Adam and sister united. Darlene letting us all know she is truly human. truly professional. Her words of affirmation to each one of us that she does not allow any story to go live without her approval makes her comments ever so empowering, it is up to each one of us then knowing she advises us lovingly with her words to be pro-active in seeking the help she suggests where we are at. Thank you Adam, you gave her the opportunity to be truly herself with us. Thank you Darlene.

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