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Feb 15, 2008
You deserve happiness...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother was so wrong, Abi. You are NOT ugly; you are beautiful!

I'm so glad that you found help for yourself. And I'm very happy to learn that you no longer blame yourself for all that happened to you, because you were not to blame. You were not to blame for ending up with a mother who was a physical abuser. You were not to blame for your mother abandoning you; that is her cross to bear, not yours. A mother who abuses and then physically abandons their child has a lot to answer for. You should have had a loving and nurturing mother, a mother who was there for you to protect and support you.

You were not to blame for the horrible way in which you were treated in foster care. You were not to blame for the way that despicable disguised-as-a-rescuer child molester took such advantage of you. Everyone in your life took advantage of you and your vulnerabilities, Abi. They should all be held accountable for what they put you through.

Thank you for sharing your story with other girls who have been through the same situation, indeed, for sharing it with all my visitors.

Stay well and happy, Abi. You certainly deserve that. And from what you've shared with us about your tragic experiences, you definitely have the strength.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Feb 15, 2008
Empathy
by: Elaine

Abi, I get where you're coming from. It's sad to read a story like your's, that shows just how much being abused sets you up for more abuse.

My mum and dad were abusive. I wasn't abandoned, but I was ignored, neglected and physically abused by my parents. I don't think my parents actually needed to abandon me, they were good enough most of the time at pretending their kids didn't exist!

I can imagine that you, like me, wanted to find someone who cared for you, loved you, and was affectionate towards you. I'm so sorry that it didn't happen. Abuse teaches you not to like yourself. You are NOT to blame for anything that happened. It happened because people took advantage of a poor girl who had been brought up not to like herself.

I know it cannot be your fault, because this happened to me, too. Like you, I ran away from home, and stayed with lots of different people. Many of them were much older than me, they drank, smoked, went to bars and used drugs. I was raped at 15 by a man I met at a Club, who bought me drinks and invited me back for a coffee. I needed to stay away from home, so I agreed to go with him. I was so drunk by the time I got back to his flat that I wanted to be sick. The man seemed to be really concerned, and told me he'd get fresh clothes for me.

I was taken advantage of the way that you were. Because I had low self exteem, I believed that I was a "dirty slag" and I had a lot more relationships with some very unpleasant men after I was raped.

I'm glad you finally got free, and got help. I did too, and I found that counselling was of some use. It's very hard to undo all the damage that abuse causes. I agree, that with help over time you can begin to see that it's not all yor fault.

It's good that there are sites like this to share stories, to help ourselves, and others. All the very best...

Feb 15, 2008
OMG
by: KASTURI

I FINK WAT U WENT 2 WAZ VERY NASTY BUT U HAV BEEN VRY BRAVE WICH WAZ REELY GUD BECAUSE ME AND MY SIS HAV BEEN SEXUALY ABUSED IN A DIFFRENT COUNTRY BUT URS SOUNDS SO HORRIBLE AND WORSE BUT U WAZ BRAVE HIP HIP HOORAY HIP HIP HOORAY

Feb 16, 2008
I'm so sorry
by: Francine

Of course your mom isn't right in hurting you; she is wrong! And no, you are not ugly at all, ever! You are smart, strong and beautiful; just don't ever let anyone think otherwise! I'm so glad you got counselling. As for your foster families and your so-called rescuer, they are perverts because they decided to rape you instead of looking after you, and raping is wrong and they all know that! Well, my parents argue with me, call me names, yell at me, and hit me, too, but they haven't done more than that! The only stupidity that I see comes from your mother and those miserable perverts!

Mar 07, 2008
OMG
by: Anonymous

Go tell someone right away!!!!!!

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