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Feb 18, 2008
Your parents were despicable...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

A sex-offending father; a mother who couldn't have cared less. Your start in life was inhumane. You deserved so much better. As a child, you had no power; as an adult, you have choices. I suggest you contact a local woman's shelter for resources that are available to you in your area. It's a very good place to start.

I also recommend you read through the various stories on this site, but most importantly, read my comments that are attached to those stories. I've dedicated a great deal of time to offering words of validation, encouragement AND support, support that I believe you'll find helpful on so many levels. You will find helpful advice from my various contributors, as well, and you'll find that you are not alone in what you've suffered.

Good luck, and I hope you'll keep my visitors and me informed of your progress.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Feb 18, 2008
sorry for you
by: Anonymous

that is really bad am sorry that happen to you but that good you are away from your house dont let anybody tuoch you the way you dont want to ok pray for you ok pray hard that really wrong that your mom didnt believe you she should if she cares about you she shoulve listen to you that wrong am sorry sweety

Feb 18, 2008
Thanks for sharing and welcome
by: Anonymous

Hey, sounds base awful and I'm not trying to make light of your pain, sometimes it's the only way I know how to deal with my own, with sarcasm, it sucks sometimes but other times I feel more empowered when I observe my own story in a global way. I always feel though that my own story is the only one I have the right to make "fun" of and that I have no right to do that to other people. Remember that you are the only one who owns this and no one else. Lot's of love.
Jennifer

Feb 22, 2008
A shame
by: Anonymous

i am very sorry about what happened. i think that your mom should have believed you instead of taking his side. I just turned 17 monday and i have to do a research paper on child abuse and neglect. I was reading some stories and they are sad. i hope that God blesses you and for the truth to come out and be told but be careful and pray.

Feb 22, 2008
thank you for your comments
by: A

i have thought about a womans shelter but it is so hard for me to let the words come out of my mouth. its very different on here i can hide behind my computer. i am also scared of having to face my dad.. that is one of the last things i want to do.. i just want it all to go away but i know that cant happen either

im not sure im ready to talk to anyone in person so im going to wait a while but thank you for your comments

Feb 23, 2008
It's just a phone call
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I do understand disclosing in the security of anonymity. When you're ready to say "it's just a phone call" then you'll be ready to make that call. I hope for your sake, that will be soon.

You're worried about having to face your father...I don't understand why you think you have to face him. You're now a grown woman; you get to make your own choices, including who you are going to face and who you are going to have a relationship with. Hang on to that knowledge; and keep reading what others have written on this site. I'm sure you'll find the stories and comments helpful. You may even find strength in them.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


Feb 23, 2008
i will keep reading
by: A

it has helped me a lot... im scared to face him because i feel that is the only way for me to get over this.. i need to be able to look at him and accept what happened and move on without being afraid of every shadow or noise i hear

i am still terrified to be caught alone and have had to get security to escort me to and from my sons doctors appts from the threats that have been made... he has threatened to try and take my baby from me which i know there is no way for him to do that.. he still can scare me with his threats

i know i am not ready to make the call i really hope i can soon i know it would help i just need to get the courage up to do it.. i actually looked up the number this morning wrote it down and stuck it in the back of my notebook that way when im ready it is there

writing this has been one of the hardest things i have ever done.. before i could ignore what happened but seeing it is much harder then i thought.. im sure hearing it is going to be even worse.. its just going to take some time


Feb 25, 2008
ew!
by: Anonymous

i know it's so wrong! i can't believe your own father did this! he gave you life and he did this!? it's good that you know it was wrong! did your mom ever believe you?

Feb 28, 2008
Tears for you
by: Linda

Anonomous, when I read your story, I became so angry at your father, and then I cried for a long time. I wanted to give you some words of encouragment, to do whatever it takes to get through this hard time you are facing. There are agencies and professional people out there who can help you. Your father is a sick man for doing that to you and needs to be put in jail for his crime he did to you. Thank you for being so brave in sharing your story with us. You have the strength in you to overcome that abusive childhood and be a good mom to your child. Hang in there Angel.

Feb 29, 2008
linda
by: A

thank you and i think what happened to me has made me the mother i am today... i may be a little more protective and cautious then most parents but i am a good mom and my son knows he is loved

right now i am using the internet to tell the things that went on and to help me feel like this isnt my fault.. sounds crazy but i do feel like i asked for it because i never made it stop

this website is amazing and i have gotten a lot of strength from the stories and comments from others

Mar 04, 2008
Hi
by: Anonymous

Have you told anyone?

Mar 27, 2008
So sorry that happened to you
by: Nikki

Hi A,
I was so sad after reading your story. I am so sorry for what happened to you. Although I was never raped by a family member, I endured years of abuse from my mom and all of her boyfriends/husbands. It's the worst feeling to know that your mother chose someone over you. You need to realize that none of what happened was your fault. Your father is a very sick man that you fell victim to.
You can't control what happens to you as a child, but you can control what happens as an adult. Please don't let your parents "win" by letting them ruin your whole life. Don't ever let a man abuse you in any way, it is not right. Don't resort to drugs or alcohol to escape your bad feelings. Take it from me, I am 31 years old, two kids by two different men, both much much older than myself. Guess I was looking for a father figure. Now I struggle with prescription drug addiction because it makes me numb to all those memories and contempt for my parents. Now I have another problem. Please seek counseling, there are people out there who will listen and help without wanting anything in return. Best of luck to you.

Apr 14, 2008
gross
by: Anonymous

omg! this is the most wrong thing ever!


did you tell anyone?

if didn't you should love kendall

May 03, 2008
i still come here
by: A

from time to time just read thru and try to get the courage to say the words i have been trying so hard to say! i wanted to thank all of you for taking the time to comment it does mean a lot to me... i am going to start therapy soon i am just trying to find somebody i am comfortable with

May 12, 2008
omg
by: Anonymous

have you told anyone I feel so bad for you.



Oct 08, 2010
srry
by: tanya

your dad was wrong of wat he did to u never blame your self

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