Child Abuse Should Not Dominate Your Life

by MC
(Wisconsin, USA)

Why you shouldn't let any kind of abuse dominate your life: 
Although right now I can't be sure if I was sexually abused or not, there is something my mother always said that resonated with me in many, many situations. She always told me "you can go through life being a victim, or you can work your way through and be strong".

While that is definitely hard sometimes and I feel like just turning of all the lights and eating a tub of chocolate ice cream and a bottle of magic shell, I try to be as strong as I can. If I let what has happened dominate my life, I'm letting those who want me to be a victim win. If I do that they will get a big ol' head and try to take advantage of everything they can. You should try to be strong not only for yourself, but for all the others like you. We net to be a network, a safe place to land.

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