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Mar 29, 2010
Stay in counselling, but make sure it's for you...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing more of your daughter's story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 29, 2010
She hasn't caused anyone any pain
by: Eileen Howard fralick

Your sweet daughter and your family has caused no one any pain, she and her relative, the other girl who was a victim, have caused nothing except making sure that that man wether convicted or not shall be watched, he should be convicted, and it has caused all of you pain, but he caused it, not the children, those brave children, your life will be stronger for this, believe it or not, take strength, in all you have learned, you are now able to help us all with your knowledge and join in the fight of the victims. When your fight for your child is over, you can take up the battle for the victim, if you are strong enough, that will take much time,to become strong enough, but someday you will see how much you have learned about our bad system of justice, and this may encourage you and your sweet daughter and her step relative to turn this horrible act into good. You are so brave a mother, so take that bravery with you and your sweet girl, you don't need to care what that part of the family thinks, as they aren't worth having as family anyways. You have each other. that is all you need, stay strong, she needs you so. Keep telling yourself that you have lost nothing in losing that part of your family, they are best off not in your life. I am so sorry it had to be found out this way. but someday you will see, if you stay strong, it will lead you home. Love and best wishes for your faith in your girl. My mother didn't believe me until it was way to late. So you are a mother, a good strong mother. and because you stand by her, she too will be a great woman someday. This does not have to defeat any of the good people in your family. Stand by her as you are and she will get through this. Thankyou for taking the side of the innocent. She is a child. He had no right to touch her. no matter what!!!Eileen Howard Fralick.

Mar 29, 2010
Conintue the journey together in recovery
by: Mac

Proud of your daughter & the other girl involved, as well as you, & your husband. You guys are not alone.Thanks for sharing the story; keep us posted. GPS monitors on abusers ankles, will track their locations,& they cannot lie their way out of breaking any restrictions as their moments are recorded 24/7.That might be something to talk with your attorney about for the girls & your families safety. Abuse is still horried whether is is blood related, or not.Find a good support group, & also now is the time for all of you to have the support of a good home church & fellowship to help you stay ok druing this time. You don't have to disclose everything with the church; just keep good folks close to all of you while you're on this recovery path, & draw closer to Jesus, as He alone provides our comfort ,shelter,strength,endurance, & power to overcome all that we experience in this world. You all are loved; stay safe.! Keep us posted!

Mar 30, 2010
clear thinking the adults supervised wrong and they well what did they teach in that household why woul d you not see that
by: Anonymous

contin from important and hero

i read this because since it hits home on a family i know similiar

the part about the blood related thing and the ages, i cant help but say , well
not your daughter not that or who or what happen
but you
in that case and some of what you say,
seems you care about your relationships with them , why,
what they think and also dont you see the difference, who raised him , they did
blame the real adults, not you blame the one the son or the one did it, blame him legally yes
but who what adults were there, legally he is an adult but why would you care about them thinking anything about you , are you serious they ruined his life , they didnt watch supervise they didnt see things when i guess he was young teach him stuff and all, its thier fault
he did wrong but caught now young age and such
blame them shame them, they dint do thier job as parents, fact, the adults, you did ,
sad to think system failed , young people
adopted to and foster care to irresponsible parents them, your extended family, and if i were well to say justice the abuser he too sue them for rasing him there had to have been more to this honestly. they wouldnt take all the kids
what a burden put on the young ones, why did he become abuser and at that age now i think well
also who taught moral s and how ignorant of thinking saying that not blood related althogh true, who taught this young man why was he with them they didnt do their job, oh money it was about money wasnet it, they had him to get money
dont you see that, or if blood related then,
they were too busy with getting all that money
foster care and adopeted and all.
money money money and more
he is twenty four years old another thing to look at, and your daugther a minor
that s a different kind of case, reason he got lawyer, you need to sue the family if you do decide to get envolved, the adults that took care of him that knew they all unsupervised , neglected him too. legally you wont win this as a abuser case because of what you said, ages and alll. that family needs investigating. into them
its your husband family or yours, is it yours
you said you were abused. dont relive that thru this see the case clear who is to blame, the adults thats why they took the kids they are not fit, period not talking about little things little neglect or money they must be really bad
who care s what they think and well , blame needs to be toward them, the adults, i have to take responsiblity for things in other cases i didnt do it, and in case i am adult for things just because i am the adult,

Mar 31, 2010
Thank you so much for support
by: Determined Mom

I really appreciate all the comments and support people have shown here. Although in my heart I know we are right, it can at times be overwhelming and hard to stand our ground. We will continue to fight for justice for these 2 brave girls. And also to the comment on the adults not raising the abuer properly- I wholeheartedly agree. I truly believe there is more to the story than what we know of- maybe more light will be shed in court.
As for right now the other girl who was victimized has run away- left the city and sought refuge on her bio-family's Indian Reserve. Not good news as we know she has now gotten mixed up with drugs and alcohol and her bio-family is not good influence, which is why she was in adoptive care to begin with. My heart breaks for her and I have tried to persuade her to come back - we are willing to raise her but fear and disillusionment has gotten a grip on her. Trust is such a fragile thing.
Please pray for us those of you who can and I appreciate your comments. Thank you so much.

Apr 01, 2010
All one can do is their best and then lea the rest to GOD
by: maurice

My prayers are with you, You are a true mother with deep love for your children especially your lovely daughtere abused by that uncaring family member who is a molester of children. So sad to hear what he did to the other girl has driven her away from your love, care, and concern and driven her into more danger in the drug and alcohol world. How he damaged her thinking amd her beautifulness. You have a nd are doing your very best for your daughter and who know maybe in time her friend will see how she is doing in coping with her life and the horrendous abuse on her person and come back for your love. that is my prayer for you all at this time. Know you are a faithful and true determined Mom. Do your best and leave the rest to God.

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